ALWAYS PORTRAYING A VICTIM OR BEING VULNERABLE IS A TURN-OFF.

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The desire to feel loved, cared for, looked after, and all other forms of concern are universal human desires, and these emotions are genuinely satisfying.

One gets a feeling of affection, value, and belonging from it.

Most people have gone a step further and created situations solely to elicit sympathy from other people rather than waiting to be shown this adoration.

Since this is beneficial, particularly when it is required, it always feels awkward when it becomes a way of life. It also makes people subconsciously shy away from you because they believe you to be one of "The Beautiful Gate" brethren (The Beautiful Gate Brethren are those who are a burden to others). They constantly portray themselves as being in poor condition.

Everyone is uncomfortable having such people in their circle, especially the serious-minded people who have goals and targets to achieve. There is a fine line between wanting to be loved and coming off as a weak, unfortunate person, and in reality, nobody wants to be around such people.

Put an end to posting everything wrong with you.

Stop letting people take advantage of you; all you'll do is cry online, get a few likes and comments, and then the next day, everyone will have moved on.

Stop giving the impression that you can't defend yourself, especially in a circumstance when anyone with access to the internet can handle it.

In most cases, it's a good thing to be erratic.

Make your content comfortable to read; if not, readers will avoid it whenever it appears on their screens because they will assume it contains more tears you want to cry.

Allow the responsible people to see you as someone they can be around rather than as a victim who constantly demands excessive attention, as I previously advised.

This essay isn't intended to silence you when you should speak up, but rather to make you aware that everyone has a choice as to who they invite, especially if they have nothing to lose.

Recognize when you need assistance and when you simply want someone's attention.

I remain your favourite writer, Blackdovy.

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Well I believe people act according to the level of knowledge they have obtained or they are at a particular time in a particular situation, whatever attitude they showcase is based on their knowledge for the time, if they grow bigger than that or have higher knowledge than that they'll act differently, and this post is to help them in that I believe, thank you for sharing 😊

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You're definitely right...thank you for reading through.

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