Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 311 ~ people I have trouble relating to

What type of people do you have trouble relating to and why?

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I love to associate with everyone and anyone, I am not sure I easily have a problem with people no matter how they are or their attitudes. U think it's more because I have been opportune to meet and deal with people with difficult attitude, so what I try to do to avoid going about having issues with everyone because of course every human with their specific and distinct attribute, character or traits, so to avoid having beef and feeling awkward around someone because I had beef with them is that I try to know the person, respect them and their boundaries and create boundaries, so that none of us exceed each others boundaries, adjust and understand them.

It doesn't mean that I do not have or I have never had beef with anyone, I have and I know I will always have but the specific people I have problems relating to, adjusting to, or trying to understand are those who bully and demean others. These set if people find job bullying and demeaning people, like they feel so good about what they do and it irks me.

Maybe because I have felt and know what it means to be bullied by others, maybe because I have tasted being at the side of being demeaned by someone, just because I was at the receiving end, but either way, I can not understand people who do this and whenever I sense someone who is a bully, I am always seemed with rage, to give back to the person because I know bullies hate confrontation, they enjoy the smell of fear, sadness, tears and pain.

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Whenever I come across someone who is being bullied, my blood always rushes to my eyes and I remember how I felt being bullied by my peers just because I was too skinny and without features like the rest of the girls in the class. It got bad that whenever it was days for sport and we had to change into our sports wear, I would have to wait for everyone to be out of the locker room before I went in to change.

As I write this, I am forced to reminisce about the pain, and the many times I reported it to my dad but nothing was done because in his words "Kids were being kids" and "learn to stand up for yourself", although it stopped when I finally had the balls to fight back, the years I accepted being bullied cannot be erased. Now, I give myself a mental note to train up my children to be able to stand up for bullies because no child of mine will be bullied and if any of my child comes back home reporting about a bully, believe me, I am going to the school the next day and if nothing is done, I am going to directly talk to the parent(s) of the child or children involved and still if nothing is done, I am sorry but i am not, I am going to be taking matters into my hands.

I have been bullied, I have been talked down to, and I know how it took my confidence from hundreds to zero, it took years to accept my looks, build up my confidence, and self-esteem, I do not have time relating with such people, other than to put them in their place and give them a pill of their medicine.

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Also, people who are stuck in their own world, and stuck with their own ideology of the world, Nah, I am never having such people around me, not because I do not have patience but because this set of people never see from anybody's point of view except theirs and I am not ready to try to make anyone see something different. Now while it is fine to be self-aware and of course, our idea or meaning of life is most times based on our experiences, it is safe to understand that there could be two sides to some things.

Last week, I was in class and a question was asked, while the lecturer explained it based on what he felt was the ideal thing of course because of his environment and experience, we do know it shapes a man's being, I saw students raised hands to explain their point of view, and of course he refused, I sat and watched him shut every student who opposed what he thought was right and said down and I knew it was going to be difficult trying to argue with such persons because he is stuck in his own world, the one he created for himself, of course it will be hard trying to let him know he was wrong with such thoughts.

For this set of people, patience should be a virtue to be able to make them understand that life does not revolve only around their experiences and ideology and I am not sure,I was sold patience when I was being created. I could be patient with everyone but not this set of people.

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This is my entry to Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 311

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