The Similarities of Risk, Luck, Guarantees, and Uncertainty
When I was in college studying for a diploma, I had a colleague who liked this girl. Of course, there was nothing not to admire about the girl; she was stunning and had a radiant smile. He was about 24, and the girl was about 19. I watched as he made efforts to get this girl, but to what end? He was most likely looking for a pretty girl to do things with.
At 24, I was struggling to stay healthy and find a steady job, so while I could not compare myself to him, I felt he was not quite ready; he did not have a clear direction for his life, no money, no job, no goal, just a bright future and a sharp mind. This girl, on the other hand, was much younger, a hustler, unemployed, dependent on her parents, and sold street food to support her education.
You would have thought "Oh, what a perfect match"
This is how things would have been in a functional world
People are supposed to gravitate toward what they are familiar with. For example, I cannot be a regular customer in a place where street food costs $2 while dreaming of a woman who spends $1000 at a restaurant. There is a specific type of disparity that makes it difficult. If I am on Hive, there is a chance I will marry someone from this space; why?
I am not saying it is impossible; rather, people rarely leave their cycle unless they inadvertently migrate. People, for example, grow and move on from where they were previously. A person whose monthly income rises from $30 to $500 will most likely have different friends, crave different foods, and be interested in different women or men, but this new interest will not exceed their earning or financial capacity.
Surprisingly, people can do this without even realizing it, and they do not have to be mathematical geniuses to do so. People prefer to connect dots that are close to them rather than those that are farther away.
I am not saying it will not happen in my immediate environment, but I am more or less at ease with the possibility of meeting someone with whom many things are interconnected. It is why nerds are more likely to fall for strangers on the internet; these are their types of people.
Now, let us not get distracted from the main reason for this post.
Human psychology leads us to believe that many unlikely events are far more likely to occur than those that are actually likely. Unfortunately, more likely events occur than those that are actually unlikely. This is why, no matter how similar a storyline is to reality, movie ideas will always differ.
So this guy was smart; he had the potential to be a billionaire, start a business, earn good money, and so on. He had good genes, was by far the smartest guy in the class, and everything about him screamed "a radiant future," but he was still developing all of that potential.
Despite the fact that I believe he was not ready, he was the type of man a lady could build a relationship with.
Unfortunately, he did not get the girl; he experienced severe heartbreak and moved on. Fast forward to today, and I saw the lady in my WhatsApp status. She is about 22-23 years old, has twin children, and is sitting in a nice car with a fairly comfortable man in his early 30s, possibly 31 or so, and she does not appear to be regretting anything.
So, what happened?
Apparently, she met a man whose present was the future, and she is now living the life she could have had with the other guy. The girl appeared to have made the right decision for herself and her newborn twins. Life may be cruel, but the only lesson to be learned is to set aside sentiment and focus on what is important.
Now, this other guy could become a billionaire in the future or fail miserably; I am sure the girl did not want to play chess with her future and instead chose a predetermined future.
Humans (we) are like this.
We have a tendency to hold on to what is certain, so I applaud those who stick with what is not certain and choose to face the uncertainties that accompany it. There are not many loyal people in life, and I do not think it is fair to judge them as self-centered.
There is no proof that hard work will ever be rewarded, and patients' dogs may not eat the fastest bones. There is also no guarantee that being a good person will eventually bring you goodwill.
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It's tough to know the future but I don't blame the girl for going for the safer choice. It's pretty much better to have a stable future than taking a gamble. However, I think anything could happen. The stable future could disappear at any point due to things that could happen.
You're right, the stable future can disappear and anything can happen, but I guess it's better to take what's currently looking good as there are better chances that it might last
In life everything is risk and there are never guarantees. However, the girl you mention chose the safer bet with less risk. Never a bad move especially if she wanted to start a family. In my experience most women look for the safe bet for the long run, especially if they want to be financially supported by her spouse.
People do tend to gravitate towards what they know, which is why a girl from rich parents tends to marry a rich guy. But you never now... Life and relationships are always uncertain, that's the only guarantee we get out of life!
You're right. I saw the way the girl treated the first guy in our class, obvious it was because he didn't have any money and he wasn't established..
It's a women's world, men are meant to grind their life to dust to be providers and sometimes it's just not fair.
Some can say nothing is guaranteed to happen. I tend to disagree. The way the universe is built there will always be patterns, repetitions. That's why we are able to predict the stock market, that's why psychologists predict human behavior, that's why we predict sports events. These patterns happen like 60% of the time and fail 40%, but people only pay attention to the 40%.
These are stats and probability you're mentioning. When it comes to human psychology phenomenon there's no guarantee that a particular phenomena is likely to happen based on things like predictions. It's why the whole human psychology is far more complex than the human mind. If people look at patterns, then it'll be impossible to explain the inexplicable things that actually happens in real life
Interesting story. Looks like we run into various versions of the Marshmallows experiment in life, where people keep choosing that's in their hand instead of waiting for a better reward later. Of course, in the case described by you, the young lady couldn't have known for sure what future is waiting for the young man who liked her.
You're right. I think it just goes to show that when it comes to things like love, most women will go for certainty rather than prospect. In life generally, when you're not readymade, it just makes you a box that not many people will like to tick.
Sometimes love makes this to happen and while it favour some persons, this decision can also leave one in regrets. Overall life is full of uncertainties. We should follow our heart with our brain working too.lol
Good morning big Joe
Well, love is one of the most emotional things in life, if I made decisions based on common sense rather then now, maybe a lot of things would have turned out well in my life.
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Improbable things don't happen precisely because they are improbable. Especially in crypto. Or in NFT.
Well, crypto is quite different from reality
That's just it. I am good doesn't mean you'd be overflowed with good things. Life happens and it happens real.
It is not easy facing the uncertainty of what if with one's future so well, congratulations to the lady. These things aren't easy.
I congratulate her too, sentiments apart life doesn't promise to reward loyalty
That's it sha.
In this life, just do you. Also, the fact that the bluest or best person will be rewarded nicely. Some people put in more efforts daily and still have nothing to show for it.
Sometimes I think it is luck. Is it really luck or we’re smart?
Nothing we do guarantees anything in life. It's why things like good and bad does not have certainty.
Good night my brother. Greetings to you today.
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