The Brutal Games Of Survival
We all have people on whom we have relied in the past, and when they disappoint us, it feels as if we have nothing to do with them anymore, but time passes, we heal, and move on. Human beings can adapt to almost anything as long as they are conscious and breathing.
Everyone wants to survive, no matter how dirty the game or survival conditions are. When it comes down to it, we will literally choose ourselves over anything else, but it is all about survival and nothing personal. We are wired to prioritize our survival; sometimes these default instincts lead to habits that can be mistaken for selfishness, and unless we train ourselves to be better, we will just keep choosing ourselves, betraying others, breaking loyalty rules, and so on.
I have a cousin who helped a guy in the trenches get a job where he was working. After many years of working, my cousin became the manager of the place, but the guy he brought from the trenches got him fired and replaced him.
The BRO CODE
The bro clearly violated the loyalty code by pursuing greater financial success at the expense of the person who had brought him out of the trenches. Perhaps it is just me, but I find it difficult to prioritize self over loyalty. I have had numerous opportunities to choose gains over loyalty, but I find it extremely difficult.
On the surface, it may appear to be selflessness or sheer value, but in reality, I am doing it for myself.
How do I mean?
Betraying people is difficult because I would rather lose beneficial gains than lose people themselves.
Money is fleeting
.........it (money) has no consciousness; it is a means of acquisition, but it cannot take you to the hospital on a cold snowy day, nor can it send you encouraging words when you are down. It may make you comfortable and put you in a reasonable financial position, but it will eventually run out and all of your comfort will be lost.
Choosing people instead is analogous to choosing the cow over the milk, or the chicken over the egg. Money may be refined, but having people is the true raw material.
I have done business with many people and witnessed the good, bad, and ugly. Meeting people and forming close relationships with them allows you to better understand human nature. Loyalty is invaluable. In this mindless world, we need mindful people, but meeting good people without encountering bad people is nearly impossible.
When it comes to survival, you require a population that is distinct from the general population. I am not saying people can not be selfish; the essence of consciousness is the ability to develop our own values, but we have come to realize that we can not exist alone, no matter how often life tells us we have to fight our battles alone.
There are certain things we can and cannot do, which is why a single person cannot have both reproductive organs. It is why a person cannot build a company alone, and no matter how brutal some people can be in the game of gains, we still need others to achieve a lot of individual and collective success.
The Hurt Of Consequences
I have heard stories of people who have been ruined by trusting or befriending the wrong people, but no matter how saddened, wrecked, or hurt we were by their actions, the fact that we are alive to move on means that we will eventually move on, and even meet others, despite any trust issues we may develop; this is known as the ability to adapt and continue. We adapt and move; no one hates themselves.
We may project feelings of hatred onto ourselves as a result of betrayal or ill treatment from others, but deep down, we love ourselves and want to improve.
This is why we can meet people, unmeet them, and then meet others. We are designed to be adaptable; we are born alone, but we meet and form bonds with a variety of people throughout our lives. The people we meet frequently shape our knowledge, what we know, and how we change, and this is how we develop some of our values.
At one point in time, we know to seek loyal people.
Loyalty is Expensive
Even dishonest people desire loyal companions in their lives. It is simple to cheat a loyal person, use them for your benefit, and then dump them. You may believe that good people receive only good things, but you are mistaken; most of the time, the worst things happen to good people, which is the illogic of life.
Survival or the benefits of life drive people to be selfish and cruel; we can not change that; most of the time, we are lucky to have good people, and sometimes we are unlucky, and we do nothing to change that.
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I just recently came to Afrika for the very first time, enjoying the beauty of the island called Zanzibar in Tanzania.
The topic you talk about in such well written manner touched me deeply for various reasons.
It would take some time to explain why in details but I keep it short.
I see a lot of locals competing with each other to catch one of us western “crazy monkeys”, offering a million of different services to experience their wonderful island.
I can see a daily struggle to get as much as possible. I am quite in shock about unfair prices wherever I go, mostly in hotels and tourist markets.
You have a choice of living the life of locals if you basically “hire” one to take you around to learn how to move and survive maybe at some point by yourself.
Most do not earn more than 300 000 Tzs per month, as a maid for example while I am asked a third of this for an airport pick up for example and most places ask USD. My reply most of the time, “I am in Tanzania and not in Amerika or Europe.”
I feel ashamed because coming from Europe I can afford to pay 40 EU.
Do you get my thoughts and where it is going to?
Struggle for survival indeed but I do hustle as much back home as well….have to make sure I can afford my daily expanses. Cannot afford to invite everybody for free.
So I really do understand all those beautiful, kind people who think about themselves and how they can support their families first of all but for me it’s a very bad feeling to be taken advantage from most of those sweet smiling faces.
Do I have to pay for a friendship?
Our continents life quality is out of balance and so unfair! Makes me truly sad how unjust it is.
You inspired me to write more about my experiences I make here.
I do not think that it’s wrong to look out for yourself first of all as long as you stay fair and honest.
If I am doing well everybody else around will be fine as well…..
Thanks a million for sharing your experiences. In reality no one should have to pay for friendship. Inasmuch as I can justify their actions of trying to take advantage of you because they want to make a living, I think it's a very bad thing to do.
However, I cannot stand here and judge people despite how wrong their actions can be.
I think you should be able to go around and spend the amount of money the locals actually spend and not have to pay differently because you're a foreigner.
Nevertheless, most African countries are like this. Sometimes we attract the people we attract because of the things we have to offer and it can become really frustrating.
I think you should stand your ground and let them know you won't pay more than you'll pay for things you need.
I'm glad I've inspired you. Thanks a million for still checking my content after many years. I've suffered my own issues lately and it's been difficult.
I hold you can come back and create some content after all these years
Life is tough and I agree that loyalty is tough to have. I think that it is in nature for people to look out for their own interests, but I think that those people tend to suffer down the road. Once others know that they are like that, the chance of people being loyal to them is low. Life revolves around money and I think it's good to treasure the people who you know that you can trust.
You've summarized it in a very good manner. In reality treasure the people you can trust and just carefully deal with the other populace in a very careful way. Survival makes people play selfish games and sometimes I don't blame people, life can be hard in many ways
Maintaining good human relationship is important for surviving in life. We should never choose money or anything over people because you might be in a position in the future when you will need the help of those people. This is something that guy your cousin helped didn't understand. No one survives by themselves in this world, we need the help of others to survive, so we should preserve human relations in our bid for survival.
I was sad at what the guy did. It wrecked my cousin and it is probably still affecting him till today. However that's how bad it can be when people are targeting for excessive wealth at the expense of the people that supposed to be affiliated with them
This is why I love psychology, one thing I have loved about myself over time is ability to study, observe and relate with people based on their own actions and behaviours, omo people can change in split of seconds, especially when money is involve, at this point loyalty can be bought at the highest bidder,
No matter what, I know people will always change, but one thing I have come to accept in life is nobody is a fool, somehow they are wise somewhere, so that alone makes me trade carefully with whoever I come in contact with....
I value, respect and reciprocate whatever response I get from people, so it's like I will relate with you based on how u relate with me, so I don't over do certain things keeping myself in check.
Yeah, when it comes to money people do change a whole lot, but it's probably on the basis that we must all survive some how. It's not excusable whatsoever but that's what it is.
It's a survival of the fittest... It's a wonder how the country economy and circumstances have skewed people into being vulnerable and so things beyond conscience
You have to be careful about loyalty, because human nature is greedy and all too often people take advantage of it. Money is an evil that is here to stay, and if money wasn't around we would use other things to barter as money. It's depressing when you think about it, but this is the world we have to live in and no other options. Unless you want to hop on Musk's rocket to Mars...
Great post, very thoughtful. People need to learn to value people more than "items" and most don't understand this until they become ill or dying...
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Indeed. Even if there wasn't Money, they'll be some commodity that people will be willing to kill or betray others for. It's just in man's nature.
Even Elon's rocket will not be an utopia of perfection, unless we all become zombies in Mars.
I wonder why people do that do without viewing the situation long term beneficial they tend to end the deal by being greedy and spoiling the connection
It's human nature, a few people try to discipline themselves, some do not.
Yahh exactly though
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