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Some people are mature but lack the ability to accept responsibilities. For these people, they think that being mature is all about their age.

Well, before now, I would beat my chest to say that age defines the maturity level of an individual.

But as time went on especially from my little experiences, I have drawn that conclusion that you can be underage and still act maturely than a 50year old. Being mature doesn't have to do with age but with how sensible you are.

How often you take up responsibility and handle it perfectly is what defines you as an adult.

I recently cautioned a teenager over her rude attitude to her mum. I was so pissed at the way she was yelling at her mother. If not that I advocate for gentle parenting, I would have told her mum to really beat her with a stick.

News flash!! this teenager has stopped greeting me since i cautioned her. This her attitude just proves how childish she is. How can you stop greeting someone who tries to correct you?

Truth be told, a lot of adults fall into this category. And then, the big question would be, how do you handle corrections? Do you take full responsibility or you hide in your shell and look for a way to attack the critique?

My pastor will always say that "anyone who gets angry for being corrected is an egoistic fellow". I totally agree with his ideology because so many people have missed it because they are not humble enough to learn and be corrected.

Sometimes, the best of you comes alive after a healthy criticism. When I was in primary school, I had the most horrible writing. If you go through my books, you would wonder if a dog played with my books because I couldn't write neatly.

Everyday, my teacher will tell me some things that would provoke me. Even though it hurt me, I told myself that I would learn how to write neatly. I consciously started writing slowly and eventually learnt how to write well.

The first time she saw my notes after my baptism (😂), she was impressed a big deal. She bought me some cookies and gave me a pack of juice just to encourage me to keep on writing neatly.

Now imagine if I was strong-headed and refused to take responsibility, would I have had a good writing? Of course not.

As humans,we cannot run away from critiques. I have learnt over the years that whatever you do, people will certainly talk. So the best way is to grow a tough skin if not, you will break down being too emotional.

While they are talking, filter what you take in. If it is in an area where you need to change, don't hesitate to do so. Because at the end of the day, you are changing for yourself and not for anyone else.
There should always be a room for improvement because nobody is perfect.

I tasted a meal cooked by one of the best chefs in town and I was so disappointed. "Like how the hell did they even say she was amongst the best list in the first place? These were the thoughts that was just running though my head. The next time I tasted her meal, it was the best I had eaten out.

This scenario just shows you that sometimes, you can make mistakes because you are not a computer. The fact that you are seen as the best doesn't mean that you will continue to be the best always. There are other competitors coming up everyday.

That's why you should always be ready to adjust. It is okay to fail and not do good. Don't beat yourself so much. Just learn from the mistake, dust yourself and go and do better.

There is nothing wrong with being corrected at all. Just take it in, filter the words you think are helpful and upgrade.

How do you take criticisms? Do you ignore or you adjust?

Thank you for reading?