Motherhood: The Unspoken Struggles
You know the one thing we do not pay so much attention to? Itâs the aftermath of childbirth.
When a woman is pregnant, everyone is interested in her well-being. She is well taken care of by her family and friends and after childbirth, this continues for like three or four months. By this time her family and friends thinks sheâs strong enough to be by herself.
Everyone goes back to their normal lives.
We celebrate the birth of a child but sometimes we forget to celebrate the heroes whose bodies were used as channels to bring these babies into this world.
A lot of women suffer from postpartum depression as a result of their lives taking a new form. Can you blame them?
I attended a womenâs program today and the theme of the program was The Motherhood Journey. In this program, women were allowed to freely share their stories, and by stories I mean the unfiltered stories that throw you off balance upon hearing them.
All this time, I have always thought that other than a mother dying after childbirth or her body changing, there was nothing else that could go wrong after childbirth but I was wrong.
Today I got to understand the real meaning of motherhood. Not just the word but every responsibility and sacrifice that comes with being a âmotherâ.
These women shared several medical conditions that were a result of childbirth and I was stunned. A few of them confirmed that they lost their teeth after childbirth, some experienced memory loss, hemorrhoids, partial deafness, diabetes, and a long list of medical conditions.
I couldnât believe my ears. I was broken, women go through so much just to bring another human being to this world and most of them are still disrespected and treated badly.
In that moment I just wanted to hug my mum and tell her how grateful I was for her going through so much just to bring me to this world.
One thing was constant in their stories and that was the love they have for their kids regardless of their present conditions. If this isnât the most selfless thing in the world then I donât know what it is.
Wondering why we have so many days in a year to celebrate mothers? Itâs because we just canât thank them enough. Going on a journey were you may or may not make it is some damn heroic move if you ask me.
I keep hearing that pregnancy and childbirth are overrated. How stupid of those nutjobs to think getting pregnant and giving birth is simple as ABC. These people keep asking what mothers bring to the table, like itâs even up for discussion when they are the entire table!!!
If thereâs one thing I learnt today is that marrying a kind man is very important. A man who understands everything and supports you every step of the way. It doesnât fix everything but it sure goes a long way in making the journey easy.
To every mother who is going through one medical condition or the other as a result of childbirth, I pray you get well soon. Please hang in there and Yâall are heroes.
Over to you mothers; how were you able to manage the changes your life underwent after childbirth? Did you accept the changes with an open mind? Iâll love to read your thoughts in the comment section.
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I saw myself in so much of what ypu wrote. As a single mom who just survived postpartum anxiety while navigating life alone was one of the hardest things I've ever faced. I lost my job during that period, and with it, a part of my identity, my stability, and honestly, my sense of worth for a while.
I didn't accept the changes right away. In fact, I fought them hard. I felt invisible, alone, unsupported, and exhausted tryinh to keep it all together while silently falling apart.
But slowly, I started picking up the pieces, drawing inspiration from my son, seeking help from my family, our church congregation and most especially from God. Since then I began to accept that I wasn't weak for struggling, I was human, and strong for surviving. The love I have for my son was what pulled me through even when I felt I had nothing left to give. And yes, I did eventually accept the changes and started to cope with them, but I had to admit that not with ease and not alone.
So to all moms who are still in the dark place full of questions and uncertainties, you're not broken, you're becoming. Hang in there and know that you're not alone. Sending hugss to all of them, and thanks a lot @ibbtammy for this post, it's like an appreciation for all the moms' struggles and sacrifices that are often seemed invisible to others. It's an awakening post.
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Hello @shine6712 thank you so much for sharing your story not many can do this openly.
I am so glad to hear this. Thank you for holding it all together and for not letting all the pains you felt define you.
It was not an easy journey but we are glad that you could make it to the finish line eventually.
You are one strong woman and we celebrate you.
Thank you for being an amazing ladyđ„°
Big shoutout to all the mothers, they are worthy of all the celebrations and more.
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Oh yes they are
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no es fĂĄcil luego de dar a luz, todo cambio que eso conlleva te hace sentir diferente, los estranochos, el cansancio fĂsico y mental, si te toca trabajar o estar pendiente del resto de la casa, todo se vuelve una agonĂa, pero todo es por un momento, todo va pasando, y despuĂ©s te das cuenta de que valiĂł la pena
it is not easy after giving birth, every change that comes with it makes you feel different, the stress, the physical and mental fatigue, if you have to work or be aware of the rest of the house, everything becomes an agony, but everything is for a moment, everything passes, and then you realize that it was worth it.
At the end of the day it was worth it right? Nothing beats that.
Thanks for sharing your story and I am glad that you were able to accept the changes that came with being a mother, well done Ma'amđ„°
I used to ignore about postpartum and depression before no one had told me what is postpartum is all about that is why I couldnt understand my swing moods that I easily got angry and cry.Our ancient do not believe about postpartum before until I did a researh and because of social media now the mothers are aware about postpartum.
Ohh dear I am so sorry. All thanks to social media and search engines that make it easier for us to understand certain things.
I am glad you were able to overcome postpartum depression, you are one strong ladyđ„°
My God... From all languages there is, and you decide to speak just the truth... Bravo, girl, just bravo!!
Thank you so much friend, we sometimes need to talk about these thingsđ