I wish people could be kinder to first-time mothers. It’s a whole new experience for them, and they struggle to adapt while trying to be there for their children and husbands and heal alongside them.
It’s a journey with no manual or past questions, just learning on the spot, and it can be quite daunting if you are unable to get the hang of it.
Motherhood alone isn’t easy; it involves so many sacrifices and discomforts. For a beginner(first-time mum) it can be tough especially when you do not have people around you that are willing to help you navigate this phase.
My friend gave birth a few weeks ago, and it’s been one scary ride for her. She gave birth to twins, Lol double blessings and double “everything”.
I’ve always loved twins, as they are always cute but discovering how challenging it is to raise two children at the same time, I feel nothing but absolute respect for mothers of twins.
Understanding what goes on behind the scenes is enough to drive you crazy. Behind those cute smiles, matching outfits, and giggles is a woman doing everything possible to raise her kids.
As a first-time mum, the whole process is new and overwhelming. There are so many things she needs to learn and incorporate at the same time so her kids don’t suffer.
She’s battling postpartum depression and said she’s never going to get pregnant again. I can totally understand her stance, as our “firsts” can be pretty difficult sometimes.
Due to the overwhelming journey, most first-time mums can end up becoming tokophobic, and that sucks.
My friend complained bitterly of how an elderly woman spoke to her rudely just because of how she held her baby. While the woman meant well, the manner in which the message was delivered caused more harm than good.
These people are still learning the ropes and before they get the hang of it, I think people should be patient with them and cut them some slack. People shouldn’t assume they know nothing or be seen as not doing enough because they are doing so much more, but the only difference is that they are working at their own pace.
So I’m sharing this here to encourage everyone to be kind and sweet to these women and cut them some slack. Treat them the way you treated them when they were pregnant, and never make them feel they aren’t doing enough for their children.
If you need to correct them, correct them with love and advise them with respect. Thank you.
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New moms deserves all the best care in the world...for 9 months plus labour... that is not easy mehn
Congratulations to you friend....yours too very soon🌚🌚😉
I totally agree with you friend, thank you.
New moms truly deserve more love and patience.
Ohh yes they do!
Taking care of a single baby is not joke not to talk about taking care of twins.
Congratulations 👏🎉 to your friend and I wish her all the best coming out stronger 💪 on the other side.
Thank you so much my darling Funshee, it's not an easy ride but she'll definitely scale through.
It kills me when women feel they have the right to talk rudely to other women just because they feel they are more "experienced". These are people who have most likely gone through the same struggle and know how it feels but for some reason, they choose to be rude.
Mothers, especially first time moms, deserve all the love, care and respect they can get.
Many congratulations, blessings for your baby, without paying attention to bad vibes, God bless you.
Thank you friend.
Wow, this is such a great read
I’ve picked up a lot from it already, thank you for sharing 🙏
Interestingly, some ladies develop tokophobia even before having their first child simply from hearing stories shared by first time mums. It would be so helpful if you could also write something for them, to ease those fears and give them hope.
First time moms are doing their best while learning everything on the spot, and they deserve kindness, patience and support. 😍