Closure Without Drama.....no hard feelings just Boundaries 😮💨
Making real friends in college is one of the hardest things to do. I mean, in your first year, you'd think you've made friends that would last for a lifetime.
When I first gained admission into the university, I had a few friends I was rolling with.Somehow gossip and jealousy came into the friendship so I had to shift. At a point, they even made a scene in front of the school gate out of a light situation. Just then I knew that friendship wasn't worth my energy.
The friendship split and I stopped talking to two of the girls and I and the other girl became even closer. You know how girl friendships are.
Another girl came into the equation after. We just started out with Hi and then we later had another thing in common which was baking. She loved baking and so did I.
I was just starting my baking career and she was always there to cheer me on. She had the tools and I had the skills. Most times she would lend me most of her tools to work with and I appreciated every bit of her kindness.
Months later I encouraged her to start her own business(potato chips). You could say I'm that friend that loves seeing her friends win. She started and I helped introduce her to a few stores so she could supply it. Business was going smooth, everything was going fine until the last 2nd semester holiday(last year).
We both agreed to market our products together but when we resumed last year October, she didn't even show any sign of resuming her business. Time was running, and I needed to meet stores so I could start supplying them, she would give me excuses every single time. Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into a month. I was fed up.
Thing is after the first time of asking her if we could go together and she came up with an excuse I decided to go alone. After all, time and customers wait for no man. Thank God my roommate assisted me to meet a few shop owners.
I started supplying, sales was going smooth and somehow jealousy kicked in from her end. I was so surprised that someone I helped introduce to a few shops would think I was not willing to help her again.
We would meet up in class and even talk after class everyday, meanwhile she had a lot going through her mind.
Girl! You sell chips, and I sell cakes, they can coexist and nothing's gonna happen.
I'm not saying it's wrong for her to tell me how she felt about the whole situation, what made me really angry was the fact that she made it look like she has been helping me and when it was time to reciprocate, I wasn't willing to. funny thing was that after asking her to start for over a month, she only asked me twice which I clearly told her the other weekend would be fine since I was traveling and won't be around.
We talked so much on the phone ( on VN because she refused to pick my calls) I told her how I felt and she also told me how she felt. One thing I tried not to do was exchange any words with her. I only just told her how I felt.
The next day, I confronted her and she boldly told me to my face that she wasn't going to talk about the whole situation and that I should do whatever I wanted with it. At that point, I knew she wasn't mature enough, because only a little child would run away from confrontation.
We both buried the situation under the rug, and at first I made a decision not to talk to her again, but I couldn't help it . I rather made the decision to talk to her, but only when we're on campus and only on things pertaining our studies. My personal life, business, and every other aspect of my life is out of the chat with this one here.
Her message to me screamed jealousy and I can't be around someone who can't stand my growth. ..... I even sent our chat to chatgpt and AI clearly told me she was jealous 😭.
THe major reason why I'm sharing this post is because I just remembered one thing I learnt sometime ago and I hope it helps you too.....
Never!! I mean Never cut anyone off because of one bad they did to you. Also think about the good before cutting them off finally"
Cut them off only when the situation is heavy.
She has been kind to me ever since the beginning of our friendship, and I'm grateful for her kind heart. I've made peace with her even tho she didn't want to talk about it. We're still friends and we act as if nothing strange happened between us but only the both of us know that we're not the same as we were. I don't wish for us to go back to the way we were, but I wish her well.
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