FOR WHO I AM

This is the real talk community where everyone is welcomed to talk about things the way they feel it and how it affects them. It’s another week to share my thoughts on the topic of discussion which we are asked to give our responses to the question below;

Would you rather be respected for who you are or loved for who you’re not?

At first glance, I don’t even have to think too much to give a response to this because I have thought about something similar to this a lot of times. One thing so many people feel somehow towards is love. Some even believe it doesn’t exist and I’ll say this is so because a lot of persons opt in for the second option. We most times seek for love so much that we don’t even know the time we settle for less and later when things goes south, we blame it on the none existence of true love forgetting that day we said we don’t mind whether or not it’s true or fake.

We easily ascribe little emotions and feelings to love. For some, once a person calls them daily it means that person loves them so much. For others, once a person sings their praises, they say that person loves them. Or when a mother buys things for her children we say that mother loves her children so much and so on. Truly, all these things are things we can do for those we love but these are things we can also do to people we don’t even love. Take for instance a mother who buys her child a video game when at school the child needs a particular textbook all because she doesn’t want her child to feel hurt.

For me, I’d rather be respected for who I am than be loved for who I’m not. If there is anything I detest in my life, it will be lies. It is so bad that I hate my own self for lying. Most times, because I don’t want to hurt people with my words, I choose to keep the truth to myself rather than lying about it. Yes, I want to be loved, especially by those I love but I just can’t sit and watch them go the wrong way just to prove to them I love them and I don’t want them to do the same for me. It is their loss if they can’t see the love I have for them in the corrections and reproof I give to them. And that’s exactly what I need too.

I always like showing people the real me because that’s who deserves to be seen. Not the all perfect me. Why? Because when I always seem to be perfect people find it hard to approach me with corrections and advice that will help me grow. I once had a misunderstanding with someone and I remember them telling me that I hate being corrected and that’s why they don’t like correcting me. I tried to make them understand the fact that it is hard to smile when getting reprimanded but what we should focus on is whether or not the person is putting effort into changing.

Being respected for who I am is what I’ll go for anytime. I don’t lack love. I have love all around me. I know this because I see how far I have fallen and risen in the past years and I was only able to do this because I have God and the amazing people he has surrounded me with, who love me for who I am and they respect me too. My own definition of love is different. Well, more like how the Bible defines love. If you love me, it’s easy for me to know. You don’t really have to say it first. But it’s fine if you choose to too. If you love me and you don’t respect me then your love is questionable.

As much as we can, we should always strive to love people for who they are and also respect them too. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they truly are and not based on statuses or achievements.

Thank you for reading through. ❤️