Focusing on what I have

I can remember growing up when my mum would make us sing certain songs just to ensure we didn't engage in specific activities like "Stealing and telling lies" I don't know how she got to construct such a song, often she would make us memorized every line of the song then she would conclude the song by making us attest to why "stealing and telling lies is bad" and the consequences involved when you partake of such.

Moral codes are learned consciously and unconsciously, some are inherited from parents while some are cultivated from our favorite TV shows, there are different ways in which these morals can be developed which solely depends on the individual. Often our moral code is rooted in our upbringing, it is also our experience and the way we view the world, and that's why our moral codes aren't fixed, they are always bound to change as we grow older and become more exposed.

What are moral codes?
These are guidelines a person follows to live the life he or she wants. These ethics help us to decide who we want to be, they pave the way for how we want our lives to be.

I come from a home where my mum would say "Always appreciate what you have" You can admire what others have but don't trouble yourself because you do not have that thing, When I was little I had a girlfriend at school who had amazing dolls, I imagined myself having all those dolls but then, in reality, I did not have any, so one day I went to my mum and told her about the toys my friend had, my mum's next words were "so what did you want me to do?" Then I excitedly told her "I want you to buy the exact dolls for me".

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Then she asked why I wanted the toys, I told her I wanted them to cause my friend had them and I didn't want to feel out of the league, the next words that proceeded from my mum's mouth shocked me, she said "I'm not getting it for you because you don't have a solid reason why you want those dolls" after that conversation if you see me and cry, even with the tears my mum refused. Then after a while, she got the dolls for me but on her own time when it was convenient for her.

Admiring and wanting something that the next person has is a feeling I develop sometimes, I've told myself that if it's something I can afford then I'm gonna get it but then if it's something I can't afford I'm gonna let it slide.

The moral code that has helped me so far that no matter what happens I'm not gonna fall back on this code is "not being among the crowd" I'm always contented with what I have and whatever I don't have, I don't put pressure on myself cause I believe if I can't get it now as long as life is flowing through my veins I'm still gonna get it, the timing doesn't matter.

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