THE POWER OF SORRY

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Happy new week lovelies...

The word sorry is so powerful many are so ignorant of this due to pride and ego, if only many are aware of great relevance in the power of sorry then people will live a peaceful life without problems, troubles and conflicts.

Is no longer surprising how that simple word of I'm sorry is so difficult for many to say, all on the name of why should I be the first person to say I'm sorry why not him/her why me?
Just 5 letters of alphabet but so tedious and hard to say. Many conflicts, trouble, chaos, argument, killings, fight, problems, would have been averted if only the this one simple word of I am sorry was applied.

In many marriages today suffering from series of numerous divorce...if only spouses could apologize to each other by the word I'm sorry it couldn't have lead to divorce leaving the children to suffer the consequence of a broken home which most of them suffer thesame fate in their marriages.
The word sorry can save relationship between sisters, brothers, cousins, friends, uncles, aunties, countries and the world. Just like this two countries Russia and Ukraine the 2 countries have been going through an unending war with each other, destroying lives and property. Wasting money and resources, this great war could have been prevented if only the word sorry was applied, because of this great war between Russia and Ukraine generation to come will suffer for it and they will become enmity with each other.

Why should I say sorry when I'm not at fault?

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When I was a teenager it was a bit difficult for me to say sorry or apologize when I'm wrong due to ego, shy and that phrase word of why should I be the first to say sorry or apologize. So I made up my mind to say sorry even when I'm right, initially it was difficult for me but when I learned how to say I'm sorry or apologize, it became more easy for me to rectify conflict, argument or quarrels especially between friends and siblings we all know misunderstanding are inevitable especially with friends and siblings.
So any little thing I just say I'm sorry, I never knew my mom was taking note of my excessive word of saying sorry. Mom said to me why are you always apologizing even when is not necessary to say sorry you are saying it, I told my mom is more at peace when you say sorry. very true I can testify to that. I also noticed anytime my mom will yell or scold at me, immediately I said sorry to her she became calm.
One day my mom said to me among all her children I'm the only one who apologize easily which is true because when I say sorry it saves me from unnecessary drama and quarrel.

But I noticed my excessive sorry sometime makes me look stupid and taken for granted by my close friends, is even annoying and heart breaking when someone is at fault but finds it difficult to say sorry or apologize infact some of them want you to apologize to them instead.

He/she knew he's at fault why acting up why been defensive and just say sorry? Sometimes is tiring when you are the only person always apologizing even when you are not wrong so I stopped unless I'm at fault though i compromise sometimes for the sake of peace. But there is this particular friend of mine I refuse to say sorry because she did me wrong.

I welcomed her into my home to stay for some few days we were close friends, she started acting up, her constant rejection of meals the annoying part of it is that I will seek for her consent before making any food Incase if she did not like it I can always change the meal just to make her happy & comfortable. but after staying hours preparing the food serve her & she will just reject it she doesn't take her bath in the house but take her clothes elsewhere bath & change, she leaves in the morning comes home very late at nights. I kept mute hoping she will realize her mistake and apologize she's a type of girl when you talk to her about her wrongs she get offended & avoid you the more.

I just thank God My mom was not at home when she visited imagine with this kind of behavior in her present that could have been more embarrassing, my brother complained to me because of her attitude but I pleaded with him to exercise more patient with her. Due to my mom's absence (she went home for her father's burial) her business was left in my care to run & manage till she returns. One morning I left for the business on my way I couldn't help to stop those tears in my eyes I kept pondering where I went wrong why the attitude why acting up. before I could return back home she pack all her stuffs and left the house without telling me she's leaving or even a phone call I felt bad & disappointed. Few days I saw her in church trying to avoid eyes contact with me after the church dismissed she kept ignoring me so I walked up to her greeted her and ask her how she's doing that was when she said to me she left the house. I looked at her without any remorse so I said okay. To me that was the end of our friendship I said within myself. It was painful to me how I ended 4years of friendship and it was worth it. I can't continue been friends with someone who find it difficult to apologize or say sorry when she is at fault is so annoying and tiring she does that most at times.

This friend of mine our families know and relate with each other. I did visited her before and stayed in their home for 4days I never acted that way so why acting differently to me, her parent were so happy of our friendship, and we were known and seen together in most places. She do visit and stay with me in the hostel.
After 2years she apologized to me, I forgave her but it was already too late, we do talk but we are not close anymore like before.
Our 4years of friendship ended due to her inability to say Sorry.

When you apologize it doesn't mean you re weak or stupid but it only means you regret your pass action, most importantly sorry brings the aura of peace and reunion. the world will be a better sweet place if we emulated how to say sorry properly especially in time.