Who I Was, Who I Am.

When I look back at myself 15–20 years ago, omo, I can boldly say that I am not the same person i was, I would In fact say that I sometimes sit and laugh when I think of how clueless I was back then, not like I was completely lost, but let’s just say that I didn’t know any better, then my mindset was not as sharp as it is now, my decisions were all over the place, and honestly, I did not even see myself turning out like this in any way

If my past self saw me right now, I am sure she would not even recognize me at all, she would probably just stare at me and be like, “Are you really the same person?” see back then ehn.., I was struggling with so many things confidence, choices, and even my environment, I allowed a lot of things to weigh me down, like alot but now? I have grown into a stronger woman, one that keeps trying to be better every single day.

You know, sometimes life does not change all at once, you see it takes small experiences, challenges, and even mistakes that pile up until one day you realize you are not who you used to be, for me, I cannot point to just one event, but there were stages in my life that really shaped me like really did.

One major point was when I started making decisions for myself, before then, I was living based on what other people wanted or expected from me, ,but the day I decided to put myself first, and then things started changing, I will not say it was easy, because when you try to break free from old patterns, life will test you somehow, but you know somehow, I just kept pushing.

Another turning point was motherhood, having kids changed my whole perspective about life, I could not afford to be careless anymore, I had little humans looking up to me, depending on me, that alone forced me to really toughen up and grow in ways I never imagined, I look at them now and I know that the me from 20 years ago would never have handled that responsibility the way I do now.

And then there is Hive , yes, this platform has also played a role in shaping me , in a way, you know from writing, sharing, and connecting with people has helped me find my voice, see fifteen years ago, I never thought my words could mean anything to anybody, but here I am, expressing myself freely and even earning from it, that is just growth right there.

See life has its own way of just humbling you and lifting you up at the same time, you know I have had moments where I cried my eyes out, just wondering why things were not going in my way, but I have also had moments where I smiled at how far I have come too ,and you see honestly, all those ups and downs are what has made me who I am today.

So no, I am not that same person I was 15–20 years ago, that small girl would not even recognize this version of me at all in any way, she was just too fragile, unsure, and too scared, but now this woman right here, she is stronger, wiser, and still learning every day, see life changed me, even motherhood has shaped me, and experience has really molded me, and if you ask me, I would really not have it any other way.

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