Lies Of Omission - Are They Really Better?

You know sometimes people like to say, “I didn’t lie, I just didn’t tell the full truth.” And whenever I hear that, I just shake my head because to me omission is still lying, maybe you did not open your mouth and say something false, but abeg, you have already painted the picture that will make me believe what you want me to believe, so what is the difference?

I feel omission can even be worse than outright lies sometimes, when someone lies, you can easily point and say, Yes, this person lied to me, but when someone hides part of the truth, it makes you question everything, You will be like, okay so what else did this person hide? If they could keep this from me, then they can keep anything, you get? , so that is how trust begins to break little by little.

See let me even give you a small example, so some years ago, a friend of mine kept something from me, and at the time, we used to share everything, so I just assumed I was in the know, and then one day, I found out she had been having issues with some group of people, and I only heard about it later from another person, and when I asked her, she was like, Well, I didn’t lie, I just didn’t want to stress you with it.Omo let me not lie, that thing pained me o , It felt like betrayal, not because she wanted to protect me, but because she decided on her own that I did not deserve to know the full gist.

Sometimes omission can come from fear, see people hide the full truth because they don’t want wahala, they do not want confrontation, or they don’t want to get judged, I get that sha, we are all humans beings ,but when you do that, you forget that the person you are hiding the truth from might actually be hurt more when they later find out.

So let me say this , I too have omitted the truth before, like many times, but there was one time I bought something I wasn’t supposed to buy (you know when you are supposed to save money but temptation won), when I was asked what happened to my money, I just said, i used it for something important, and left it like tha, so technically, I did not lie, but I also didn’t say the full thing, later on, when it came out, I was like, Ahh, see me see trouble, that’s when I realized omission does not save you, It only delays the wahala till later.

So now tell me? which one is worse? Me I seriously think both lies and omission can be dangerous, but omission feels more sneaky because it gives you false comfort, you think the person is being honest, only for you to later discover there was a whole chapter missing in the story, that kind of thing can scatter trust very fast.

At the end of the day, I prefer straight up honesty, even if the truth is painful, at least say it so I know where I stand , don’t go and paint one half truth that will make me start forming imaginations in my head, because when the whole thing comes out, I won’t even be angry about what happened, I will just be angry that you didn’t trust me enough to tell me everything.

So my own take is simple, omission or lie, they are both the same, If you really want to protect a relationship, friendship, or even business, then abeg just talk straight, go to the point, Say it as it is, it is better truth that saves someone from problems.

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