Isn't He Human?

I remember last week in the Neoxian Discord general channel, @afrikens raised this topic about men and emotions, and I had said it then and I will still say it again now, it is normal for a man to cry, It is normal for a man to show his emotions, It is normal for a man to feel overwhelmed, because at the end of the day, a man is human too, a different God did not create men and women, we were all created by the same God, with hearts, with feelings, with breaking points.

Somewhere along the line, society created this idea that “big boys don’t cry.” that a real man must always be strong, always tough, always unshaken, a man must carry everything alone, a man must not complain, a man must not break, but honestly, that sounds more like a prison sentence than a life rule.

Since a man is human, then he is allowed to show his emotions whenever and however he feels like it and then he gets back on his feet, because crying does not make a man weak, it does not reduce his value, it does not make him less of a man, see crying simply means he has reached a point where the weight is too heavy to carry silently again.

Yes, cry and go back to hustling for your life, because crying is not the end, It is not surrender, It is just a pause, it is like a moment to breathe, it is like a way to releasing what has been bottled up for too long and after that release, you can wipe your face, gather yourself together and continue pushing.

We see a lot of men commit suicide all because they could not handle certain situations, financial pressure, family expectations, broken relationships, failed businesses, joblessness, betrayals, disappointments, and most times, nobody notices until it is too late, why? because men are taught to hide everything.

A man can be dying inside, and still be cracking jokes outside, A man can be depressed, and still be providing for everyone.

A man can feel lost, and still be telling others I’m fine.

That is very scary...

You know if men were more encouraged to talk, to open up, to say things like "I am not okay," maybe some of these deaths that we hear about , would have been prevented, see you know talking does not magically solve the problem, yes, but it gives some kind of relief, it makes you feel less alone, it reminds you that someone else knows what you are going through.

And truly sometimes, that one alone can keep a person alive.

So yes, I think encouraging men to be more vocal about the struggles they face, is a very sound and good advice, infact a very necessary one.

Now, will the world take it lightly when a man breaks down and admits weakness? honestly? not always.

We still live in a world that laughs at men’s pain, a world that tells men to “man up.” a world that dismisses their tears, a world that uses their vulnerability against them sometimes, and that is sad.

But that should not stop men from choosing their own peace.

Not everybody deserves to hear your story, but somebody should.

See you just find that one person, a friend, a partner, a sibling, a parent, someone that you really trust. as for me, if I had to watch a grown man cry because of what he is going through, i would not mock him, i would not judge him, i would not tell him to stop.

Seriously, I would sit with him and I would listen and yes, I would allow him cry.

Sometimes people do not need any advice, they do not need solutions, they just need your presence.

They just need someone that's there to say, “I hear you, I see you, you are not alone.” you get ?

Men carry a lot, society expects them to be providers, protectors, leaders, problem solvers, all these all at once, and somehow, they are not allowed to be tired.

That is unrealistic, that is very unfair.

So yes, big boys can cry, big boys should cry definitely.

Big boys should talk, Big boys should heal.

And after the tears, they can still stand up again and continue fighting for their lives, their dreams, and their families.

Because you see strength is not the absence of tears, strength is choosing to keep going even after you have cried.

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