Why I Value a Smaller Family Setting

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A topic like this reminds me of a lot of things that I seem to be missing. I say I am missing because of the way I’ve been brought up. To put this into better context let me explain.

I was born into a family of 4. Well, I can call it 3 and half cause I am a twin. Ever since I was born I’ve only know my parent and my sibling. We did have my step sister live with us when I was little but she’s married now so you know the drill. I never knew she was my step sister until I think I was in JHS. To me she was always our blood sister and we treated her as such; plus I don’t think she being our step sister meant she’s not our blood right? lol.

So what happened was my father got transferred to a different region so we had no option than to follow him there. His wife has to follow him and the smaller kids had to follow suit. My older brothers at that time were already in senior high school so they weren’t mandated to go with us.

My senior sister on the other hand was in JHS so she had to move with us. Together with my twin and my sister we moved with my parents to a different region where everyone was new to us. A different language and a totally different cultural background. This move took us away from our native town where we were born.

The thing about this move is that, prior to that we had never visited our hometown before. So it made it worse cause we only had the chance to come back one once in a while. Now we are back to our roots but then we’ve never been to our village. I for one will like to visit there even if it’s once but then I don’t know why my parents aren’t encouraging it so I don’t think about it much.

I gave a background to how my life has been so far cause it’ll influence a lot of things that I’ll say in this post.

Being someone who was brought up in a nuclear family setting I’ll always choose to live in a nuclear family setting. I say this cause it has a lot of its advantages.

The other time we were arguing about living in the same house with your wife and your mom. For some reason my colleague liked the idea but I was totally against it. Even though it’s your mom it’ll still have a lot of trouble since at the end of the day they are still women. According to Islam your wife has the right to choose the type of setting she wants.

For me the peace and stability that comes with living in a nuclear family is one that I’ll always cherish. I am not denying the fact that nuclear family too might have its problems but it will always be solved. Leaving in a family house will ultimately mean that you’ll have to inherit someone else’s problems as yours everyday.

For me even if I had enough money to support leaving in a large family setting I don’t think I’ll ever subscribe to it. I think it comes with its problems and since I’ve never been in that type of setting it’ll be extremely difficult for me.