A choice to leave
Sometimes, I wonder why people choose to make their lives miserable just for the sake of relationships, friendships, and even being a member of a family.
I keep wondering how they cope with toxic relationships, friendships, and even toxic family members because health-wise it is not good to be in a toxic relationship, but still some people still prefer to be in the relationship rather than to have peace of mind for themselves.
There was a Nigerian gospel artist who died in a toxic marriage just because she was scared of what people would say and wanted to stay as a good role model for people in the society.
To me, that is not a good reason to throw my peace of mind away just for the sake of what people will say about me. I don't care what anyone thinks of me as long as I don't have peace of mind.
I have been there before, and I can tell how exhausting, scary, and frustrating it is to be in a toxic relationship with someone or people around you. My ex was a jealous type of guy, which made him toxic and violent in nature. At first I thought I wasn't doing something right, but the first day he slapped me publicly, I knew we were not meant for each other because if I should marry someone like that, he will end up killing me with his jealousness and violent nature.
Ever since then I realized that everyone has a choice to choose to stay or leave, but most people that are still in a toxic relationship were probably there for their selfish interest or what people will say, which is not enough excuse to stay in such a situation.
The worst part that I don't like about people in a toxic relationship or friendship is the aspect of defending the bad thing their partner did to them, all because they don't want people to judge them, which is very wrong.
A friend of mine has another friend who is in a toxic relationship, but she didn't see anything bad in the way her boyfriend is treating her.
I went to my friend's shop to get some clothes because that's what she sells. The lady in question was there with us, and we were all talking. All of a sudden her boyfriend came with a bike, and immediately he entered the shop; she just started shouting at the girl, and while the girl was trying to explain herself, he gave her a deep slap on her face and then left.
Immediately he slapped her; everywhere was silent because we couldn't comprehend what they were arguing about and why she deserved such treatment outside, but my biggest surprise was that she started smiling and then said, "I must have made him angry at home before coming outside.".
My friend wanted to defend her before, but immediately she defended her boyfriend; the two of us laughed as well and supported her decisions since we were not the ones getting the slap.
One thing I know for sure is that most people are in a toxic relationship for a reason, and they have the choice to leave, but they are either scared or enjoying the situation. But for those who are in the situation by mistake, I think the best thing to do is to walk away and avoid the person completely, no matter how important the person is to them.
I doubt if they're enjoying the situationship. Sorry you got slapped and especially publicly. Privately, he could stab you sef.
Maybe they have their reasons for staying but, their loyalty to cruelty remains a marvel. And painfully, they keep defending their partners, welcoming low self esteem into their own lives.
It's funny how you both laughed since you weren't the ones getting the slap. Those people need help but sometimes, we stay far away coz they would see us as the devils or even tell their partners how we're advising them against each other
My dear, I don’t want to become a bad person after she settled with her boyfriend.
Besides she’s laughing so who am I to get angry?
😂🤣🤣🤣😂
Victims of toxic relationships should start putting their happiness first and not worrying about what people would say.
I wonder who love to suffer if not that they are expecting something in return for being sad
They say love is blind, but I don't see anything that can blind me so much that I can't see the road to walk out of a terrible relationship. You are right people have reasons for staying in toxic relationships, it might not make sense to us but to them it does, LOL 😂 but whatever they case might be, staying where you are being treated like thrash is not a good idea at all.
Am telling you most of them have selfish interests for staying because there is no how you will sacrifice your happiness for nothing
Love is blind they say lolz not for me. Funny enough most victims are always blind to the fact that there are been treated in an ugly way or they just pretend not to know.
Throwing away my peace of mind because of what people will say can never be me.. but its quite common most people are in this situations because of the talk of people so they cant be looked less of what they were/are, its quite heartbreaking.
Thanks for sharing this with us
Please just saying on your markdown, next time try to the use this div tags to make your write up well arranged:
Oh ok thanks for the correction
Yes some time is due to selfishness that makes one to stay in such relationship.
Yeah which is not good for them but they wouldn’t listen even if you advise them