Not a Burden, Just Human: Learning to Ask for Help.

Good day, people of Hive! Welcome to my blog. Today's topic is from Hive-Learners which says: Asking for help. So let's dive in.

Honestly, the way I feel about asking for help is mixed feelings. Before I can open up and ask someone for help, it means I have tried my best and I have no choice but to ask. And if I want to ask for help, I ask from people I trust and people I know will surely help me. But there are times also when I hold back and try to figure things out on my own, even when I am clearly struggling. And I think it is something many people can relate to.

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Sometimes, I prefer to handle things on my own because I don’t want to feel like I am disturbing others or being a burden to them. There is also that feeling of wanting to prove that I can do things on my own without depending on anyone. Because of this, I have found myself waiting until things become really difficult for me before I finally reach out for help.

Truth is, I have encountered such things a lot because I am the kind of person that hates being a burden to someone, because I don’t know what the person is also going through. There are times that I will be on my friend’s DM, typing what I need help for, and I will find myself cancelling the message because I am not used to it. Anytime I need help, I call my siblings, and if they tell me they don’t have at that moment, I will have to hold on until they do, because I know it is not easy for them.

One good thing about trying to solve things on my own is that it helps me grow. I learn how to think, how to be strong, and how to face challenges without depending on people. It builds confidence because when I finally solve the problem after many tries, I feel proud of myself because it is my hard work. It also teaches patience and responsibility.

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Yesterday night, when I was talking to one of my friends, she told me that on Sunday she messaged me, begging me to give her #5,000, thinking everything was going well for me just because I am always smiling. And whenever I post on my WhatsApp status, I sometimes post my dance videos. But she later deleted the message, saying she shouldn’t assume that everything is good for me. I had to let her know that I am also struggling and managing. I even begged her to help me manage the #2,000 I sent to her, because at that time I only had #5,000 in my account.

There are times when, because I want to solve things on my own, thinking that I can handle it, my small problem turns into a bigger one. What I could have solved quickly by putting my pride aside and asking for help with a little support ends up taking more time and energy. And it sometimes affects my mental state, because carrying everything alone can be very heavy. Just like the saying goes: A problem shared is half solved.

On the other hand, asking for help has many benefits. It makes things easier and faster. When we talk to someone, we can get advice, support, and even a different way of thinking that we never considered. There are times when I ask my brother for help or advice on something, and he either advises me, supports me, or shows me a different way that I never even considered. I always appreciate him for that.

In conclusion, to me there should be a balance. Yes, it is good to try things on our own, but it is also important to know when to ask for help. Because life becomes easier when we don’t carry everything alone. Let us always learn to speak up on time, because a small problem can become a very big problem.

This is my entry for the Hive Learners Weekly Featured Content Week 213 Episode 01.

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