The Good and Bad Sides of Extended Family

Having relationship with uncles and aunts can be one of the most important part of the family life. As there are benefits of them and the roles to play in the family. They are supportive to so many things, we have seen uncles and aunts that take care of the junior ones and provide for them everything they need regardless. Even though the know they have their own parents. But there is a saying that blood is thicker than water.

At the same time we have uncles and aunts that you can not allow your children to near them as they are nothing but bad people. We have seen a situation whereby the so called Uncle and aunts, molest their family members, instead of them to take care of them they are busy doing something else with them.

The so called Uncles and aunties will keep their own children, and send their family members any kind of message, my parents told me stories about how they lived with their aunts and how she will make him in the morning around 3 AM to go and fetch water, her own children will be sleeping but he will make my Dad to look for water then clean the whole house, he also said he doesn't sleep with her children in the same room as he has to sleep in the passage or store till the next day, and this is how he was living with them because he doesn't have a choice. This same aunt sent all her own children to school but not him, instead he will be hawking and selling things for her to make money.

He lived with her like that for years till the day he was able to leave the house. We have seen uncles and aunts maltreated their family members just because they ain't the one that gave birth to them and of course they don't care.

At the same time, we have the good ones, we have some uncles and aunts, that will support their family members, their family members children will live with them and they will take good care of them, they will not maltreated them and give them everything their own children is enjoying for them to enjoy. In fact there are some will will care for the family member children more than their own children till they leave their side. I've also seen examples of this that I'm talking about.

However the bad side of these Uncles and aunties are more than the good side. And if you are ever going to let your children live with anyone then you need to have a good relationship with them, you can't just send your children to your brother or sister, knowing fully well that you guys are not in good terms. Especially when your children now have potential more than their own children, then jealousy and hatred might set in.

Will i allow my children to live with my sisters, of course yes and that's because of the relationship I'm having with them. As they love me the most and believe me their children can stay with me because they know what I can actually do to them.

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