Stuck Between Family Ties And Personal Dreams: A Tough Choice

To a great extent, most of my decisions made that brought me to where I am today were influenced by my family and a few guardians who were opportune to take care of me at a time. It's an undeniable fact that we can't make every life's decision on our own, we've never done life before to be so sure of that and so we learn from others.

It's why I try my best to appreciate whatever an elder tells me about the things I think will work out for me, they've had more experience about life. Even the most foolish person can give a wise advice but only a wise person can get the sense from the nonsense said. And when it comes to family, it's a more deeper and important situation.

Growing up in an African country, it's no news how families interfere so much in the affairs of the members. Even distant relatives like aunts, uncles and cousins could also have a say in how a family member run their affairs if they get the opportunity. Although, many of them are not for the good but there are those who are for good.

I think it is a blessing to have a family who loves and wants the best for you, it's great to have someone who cares about the dreams you say you have and want to pursue, it's beautiful to have them even give you ideas and help create more possibilities for your dreams to come through. So it makes sense when they get toxic.

When one genuinely loves someone, they find it hard to find the line between being caring or protective and being obsessed or being an hindrance to the dreams of their loved one. It doesn't mean one shouldn't be careful about the advice or help they get from their family regarding their dreams. Anyone could be wrong.

Lets face it, even. for what we know and believe, we can be unsure about them at some point so we ask for advice or help. And in cases like that, getting such from an elder or someone who have been there is always a better choice. Most of us have family members who have more experience than us in different areas of life, we can utilize it.

I don't see why anyone should cut off their family members off because they don't see eye to eye for the dream choices they've made. Personally, I think the kind of dreams we have and want to achieve influences why our families can not support us on them. You can't expect your family to clap for you when you are on the wrong path.

If I am ever stuck between family decisions and my personal dream choices, I think I'll focus more on why they are so against it and it's merely fears of the unknown, we would have to come to a common ground somehow. I believe there's almost no disagreements that can't be solved with peaceful conversations, I'll like to go for that.

If it gets out of control and I have to decide if to let go of my family and follow my dream or vice versa, I think that would be a very tough choice because staying with my family would mean letting go of a dream I believe would help me grow and choosing my dream will make me loosen the family bond. But I believe love will triump and a common ground will then be found.