Balancing Discipline and Empathy in Education
The purpose of discipline is to teach, not to punish.
This is a publication based on the suggested topic proposed in the Hive Learners community through their discord, which on this occasion is "Parents And Discipline".
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men."
<< Frederick Douglass >>
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Welcome to my blog, dear users.
Today's topic is about relatives and discipline.
It's a controversial subject as it reminds me of the times when I was a child.
I remember how the teacher used to threaten us with a ruler if we misbehaved or if we generally didn't pay attention to what she was saying in class. I used to sit at the back of the classroom and liked to throw paper balls to annoy the girl I liked.
So, I always threw paper balls at her, and the teacher used to discipline me for that. She grabbed the ruler and didn't hit me, but she hit the desk I was sitting at very hard to scare me and disciplined me by making me turn my back to the class, in a corner of the room.
I remember she would put a cone-shaped hat on me with a donkey drawn on it, like the donkey of the class or the one who misbehaved in class.
This is how she disciplined me, and of course, this way, I understood in a bad way that I didn't like to be humiliated by the class and I stopped doing it.
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I stopped throwing paper balls and changed my tactic to sending her affectionate notes. But the point is that discipline, especially when it's very harsh, I don't think is the best way to educate a child.
I'm not a parent, but I've had the opportunity to be a teacher and educate many children.
In my task as a teacher, I've had to handle children from the age of three to teenagers of 16 or 17 years old, with different characters and different ways of thinking.
It's very difficult to have a standard or a way to tell you what technique I used, but I can tell you that I always tried to put myself in their situation and be empathetic with them, seeing the situation from their point of view, how I would like to be treated if I were the one going through that situation.
This helped me understand better that by teaching and educating them for life, they would have a better predisposition to do things well and understand them in a good way.
If I ever have children one day, I think I would educate them in the same way.
I would educate them for life, to teach them to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong. As much as possible, I wouldn't yell at them or use force to discipline them.
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On the contrary, I would explain why doing a certain thing that is harmful to their life is wrong and explain the consequences that it would have for them in the short, medium, and long term in their life.
I believe that from understanding and always from the approach of educating them and making them see that if they dedicate themselves, for example, to stealing or bullying others, they will be seen by others as oppressive people, people who take advantage of the weaker ones or who like to hurt others.
People will see them as individuals to be feared, who cause trauma because precisely fearing someone who is going to harm you is not a positive feeling, especially for a young mind, a mind that is being educated.
Creating feelings and emotions of fear in a child makes us have a citizen who is afraid to think, who is afraid to do things and who is not a productive or valuable entity for society in the future.
So, we should always try to take this aspect of educating children with discipline, but not harming them, but from the understanding that their actions will have repercussions and that they should try as much as possible to make those repercussions have a positive impact on their lives, the lives of others, and society.
In this way, we can all have a better world where children are happy, learn in a pleasant environment, and we can all live better in this world.
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It is difficult for me to talk about education, sometimes fear is necessary, a two year old child is not able to understand that playing with electricity is dangerous, for him putting his fingers in two small holes in the wall is just a game. Of course, education based on abuse and mistreatment only creates cowardly or abusive adults. From this kind of adults the world can expect nothing good or different from the one we have, in which abusers steal and abuse their fellow men.
A hug @manclar.
I invite you to join my program, I will start a tree re-education program, inspired by Milgard's experiments, but I will use flamethrowers and different types of fires instead of electricity.
To teach the trees that they should fear fire and learn, because when they are young they do not know that fire is harmful. It is important that even if they are adults, remind them that they can burn themselves.
Te invito a que te unas a mi programa, yo comenzare un programa de re educacion de arboles, inspirado en los experimentos de Milgard, pero usare lanzallamas y distintos tipos de fuegos en vez de electricidad.
Para enseñarles a los arboles que deben temerle al fuego y que aprendan, porque cuando son jovenes ellos no saben que el fuego es perjudicial. Es importante que aunque sean adultos, recordarles que se pueden quemar.
ARBOL! 😂
My father did not use to yell at us or threaten us while I was little, and I always tried to obey his rules as much as possible, not because I was afraid of him but because he put so much trust in me, he did more of talking and leading by example than punishing me for my errors and I never wanted to break his trust.
You and my father, share the same way of treating kids. Now that I'm a mother, not yelling when my son misbehaves is hard sometimes, but I'm following my father's example by trying to guide him as much as possible without causing him any trauma because I want him to grow up and be a kind and happy human being. To make this a bit easier, I try to be around parents with this same value.
Your future kids will be lucky to have you.
I found your post on x and I'm glad 😊 I did.
The fact is that scaring any human being, be it a child or an adult, is not going to give good results. You achieve much more by being kind, loving and gentle with people. Dale Carnegie explains it in his book "How to Win Friends."
I don't know if I have children in the future, I haven't come across a "kind" candidate yet 😀
Hey, thank you, at least Twitter brought you to my wall, so I'm very happy about that, I celebrate it.
You are right, being loving and kind is so underrated.
As for the right candidate, she is out there just waiting for you, and I believe that you shall find each other at the appointment time. So I'm rooting for you guys, okay!
I just assumed you are a guy, I hope I'm correct though.😊
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