Effective Parenting: Guiding Children with Love and Understanding Over Punishment

Parenting comes with a lot of responsibility and it is never an easy feat. It requires alot of hardwork, quality time as well as understanding and perseverance. I am not saying this as a parent but then I have siblings who have given birth and I am talking from their experiences and the things they have shared with me.

One thing I have realised about particularly children of nowadays is that they tend to be stubborn and for them to heed to your warnings and your teachings you need to bring them up in a very responsible and good way so they won't go astray. I in particular have seen were parents have displined their child using several ways most especially through physical punishment and I must say they are most times not the most effective way to train a child. I am not saying parents should not discipline their children when they do something wrong but then i believe punishing them for everytime they commit an offence isn't the best.

In the past, I had some boys as neighbours and most times when they do anything wrong their mum will always flog them with belt or even stick. When you see them their bodies are often filled with marks. This really affected them and in these cases I normally felt pity for them because they always behave differently and they are often afraid of doing anything wrong because they are afraid they might get punished. Infact, they were always afraid to share anything with their mum because they are afraid of the outcome. I understand she was trying to make them respect her more and was training them to become better individuals but then it was really affecting them. At some point, the eldest son who was very close to me thinks they are mother despises them because of the way she was always treating them.

How do you make children see the error of their ways and dissuade them from doing it again in future?

Personally, I think the best way to make any child see the error in their ways is to sit them down and have a one on one discussion with them. At times, they do these things because of one thing or the other so you need to guide them and make them see that they are in the wrong and they need to change and do better so they can become better individuals.

When i was still a child i was very troublesome and one thing that worked for me was been corrected with mouth. At times, i might be adamant and behave as if those words dont have any effect on me but then later when i am by myself i would reflect on them and even when i am about to do the same wrong thing again those words will come back and i will just feel staying away from them is just the best for me.

So the solution for me is just to treat the kids with love and show them that you are always open to listen to them because it is only then that they will be willing to rub minds with you and that would even make them to choose to change for the better and stay away from such bad acts.

Thanks for reading.