Why should we tolerate for the problem of others?

We are humans and having emotions is very natural. There are various forms of emotion like happiness, sadness, anger, and so many others. Anger, which we call short temperament in humans, is something we usually notice and most of us don’t take it positively, but all people are not the same and there are some people who lose their temperament easily, and they say it’s something beyond their control. Does it mean they are not to be blamed for it, as they say it’s beyond their control? What’s your opinion about it?

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I belong to such a category that doesn’t get angry easily. In fact, I think that there are very few actions that can actually make me angry. I always have a cool temperament, and with my growth it became more stable and more calm, like a mountain. There are some situations where I show my temperament, and it’s actually pretending because I know in my mind I remain calm. I just pretend as the situation demands it, and it’s necessary in many cases too. Otherwise, people may think it’s my weakness, and sometimes showing anger makes many things easier for me and gives me an advantage. So, why not take advantage of it just by pretending? Even in troublesome situations, I can keep my mind calm. Let’s talk about those people who actually lose their temperament easily.

I have a cousin who is hot-tempered. Even silly things can make him angry. If anyone talks to him normally, he always finds some words from the person offensive, and he becomes angry, loses his temper, and says anything that comes to his mind at that moment. At the beginning, he used to say he just can’t control it, and it meant he was accepting he was wrong, but now the situation is different. Now he doesn’t accept that he is actually wrong, and it’s like getting angry is something he deserves, and he has done the right thing. I really hate such a thing.

I always try to stay far from him even if I am his cousin. It’s not that I am afraid of him or fear making arguments with him. I never hesitated to tell the truth even if it hurts anyone, but I don’t want to waste my time on him, and it would be my loss, and in the end, he won’t get the point either as he is not ready to accept his fault. What does it mean that he deserves to be angry with anyone for no reason when it’s beyond his control?

I agree that there are many people who cannot control it, and I think we should help them control the issue as long as they have the mentality to change it. But it does not mean that they can say anything or humiliate anyone. If they have anger management issues, it should be their problem, and they should try to meet with psychologists for the issue. There is no reason to forgive them just because they think they’re sick and should be treated, and this should not come up with the general public. Why should others suffer because of sick people? I think they should stay at home if they can’t control their temperament. I don’t feel pity, and neither do I have any intention to let them go just by humiliating myself. If anyone dares to humiliate me, I will return it with interest, no matter if it happens because of their short temper. If they make mistakes, they should pay for their actions. I never show mercy to them. In fact, I feel that if people show mercy to them, it allows them to be more arrogant and wilder in the future. It’s better to show them when to stop, and they can’t just do everything they want.