It's better not to bother others for help

Life is uncertain, and uncertainty is something that cannot be eliminated. It does not matter how much we try, we cannot predict the future with 100% accuracy. We don't know about the future, and we also don't know what kind of trouble we will face in the future. As a human, it is very natural, and as a social being, we need help for various purposes. Every human has a different personality and responds differently according to situations. Some people ask for help without thinking twice, and some people think a lot before asking for help. What kind of person am I? Are you curious to know about it?

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I’m a person who belongs to the introvert category. I choose to be introverted because I feel that my introverted personality can give me more advantages than being an extroverted person. Additionally, I have a calm mind and can think logically even if I face any difficult situation. Naturally, I can understand the consequences of my actions, and my decisions are taken according to the situation. In rare cases, I face any serious trouble, and for that, I don’t need the support or help of others. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t need the support or help at any time. Every human needs that at some point in life.

As a calculative person, I can understand the situation very well, and whenever I face trouble, I always try to find a solution by myself. It’s because I don’t want to be dependent on others. I want to trust more in my abilities. Maybe seeking the help of others can be easy, but I am ready to suffer a little if I can solve my problems on my own. I don’t feel good bothering others just to help me. Another thing is that I don’t trust anyone fully, and based on my observations, most people want something later in return or even dare to do emotional blackmail at the time of helping. This is something I hate, and I don’t want to give others any chance to mock me in the future. In a word, I am ready to suffer a little if I solve problems on my own rather than giving others the opportunity to mock me or ask for a favor in return.

But sometimes it is really hard to solve problems with my own efforts. I can understand the situation, and in such a case, I ask for help from others as fast as possible. It’s because I know that it’s something beyond my capacity. When I know I will need the help of others sooner or later for sure, why not ask for help at the beginning, as I am bound to receive the help? At least in such a case, I don’t need to be desperate for help because I naturally get time to choose the person who can give me the best support and help. I think in this situation I need to be flexible and should not hesitate. It’s because I feel that if I stop myself from receiving help from others for a temporary time, I may suffer for my stubbornness without having any outcome, as at the end I will need the help of others. I believe that in case of receiving help, one needs to consider. If we ask for help again and again, we may lose value as a person in their eyes.