IS THE GOOD CHILD BORN OR TAUGHT?

Children are blessings from God. With this reason, I strongly believe that no child is born or destined to be bad. A child only becomes bad when the parent fails to perform their responsibilities. On one hand, parents fail to perform their responsibilities because they lack proper understanding of their duties or they simply do not care. This aspect about parenting bothers me a lot. People who lack proper knowledge about what it takes to raise a kid should not even think about becoming parents in the first place. I have seen many videos on the internet where parents do absurd things like smoking or fighting in the presence of their children. It is obvious that these kinds of parents lack proper knowledge about parenting.

Today’s Hive Learners’ prompt is **HUMAN TRAITS**. Do people learn to be good or are they simply born that way? As I mentioned above, no child is born or destined to be bad. No child is destined to be good, likewise. A child is like an empty board. When they come into the world, they come with nothing. It is parents and the environment at large that shape them to be good or bad. Over the past decade, I have had the opportunity to be around parents, particularly mothers . One thing I have realized is that parenting is one of the most difficult jobs to do. I remember when one of my sisters’ was pregnant with her first child. She became really weak, she had a series of morning sickness, she even stopped eating some of her favorite food. When she finally gave birth, I’m sure she thought that the journey was finally over, but little did she know that the big job was just about to start.

Children are not simply born good or bad, it is the parents and environment that shape them. I remember having a conversation with someone and according to them, “some children are just destined to be bad.” They gave examples of parents who did everything to make sure their kids stay on the right path, but eventually they end up turning bad. It is true that some children are just more stubborn than others, but I still believe that when a child becomes bad, it is because the parents failed to make things right. For example, a stubborn child who keeps going against the parent’s instructions. After multiple times of trying to correct the child, the parents might give up and it is the moment they give up that the child starts becoming uncontrollable.

The blueprint for how to not have a bad child is to be responsible parents. The first step to ensuring that your child becomes a good person is to show them what you want them to see. For example, a boy who grew up seeing his father beat his mother might want to do the same in his school or when he is with his friends. However, when parents show children positive things, they are a step ahead. That way, the children will subconsciously learn good things from them.

Another way to make sure that your child is a good person is to teach them the importance of certain virtues. I have always liked the idea of raising kids of my own. Many times, I have thought of how I would call my children together and tell them valuable stories. I imagine doing this with my husband. In our free time, we would gather together, then tell them valuable stories. For example, the importance of kindness. It is also very important that parents involve God in everything they do. Some children are very difficult to handle. You might think beating a child is the best way to train them, but some children need different approaches and it is only God that can show you the right way. Parents should learn to pray to God because they need His guidance.

In conclusion, one thing about humans is that when we get blessings from God, we tend to misuse it, especially if we don’t know how to manage it in the first place. It is important to understand that parenting isn’t something that should be rushed. Learn how to be good parents before you become one.

Thanks for reading through.