EYES ON GAP

Marriage as we all know it is an institution that is as old as the existence of humans. Marriage was first ordained by God and God said that the man shall leave his mother and his father and shall click to his wife and both of them shall become one flesh. Reading from the author of marriage which is God, we never really saw that he was specific about the age or range that should get married. He only said a man and a woman. Judging from that description, as long as an individual is already recognized as a man or a woman, that individual is allowed to get married if they want to.

And for the distance between them age-wise it’s not mentioned either but over the years, a lot of traditions have made different rules as regarding when an individuals can get married. And as we continue to evolve, we have come to realize that it is better that the age gap between married couples should be small. But that also doesn’t mean that when the age range is large it will mean that the marriage won’t last or something. So putting a name to the range of people that can be in marriage together is something that is a bit technical and should be thought of carefully.

This is the last edition of the Hivelearners weekly topics and for this edition, we are asked to share our take on MARRIAGEABLE RANGE. And without further ado, I’ll give my take on this.

For me, there shouldn’t be anything like a marriageable range. We should rather focus on people’s consent to get married. If two people are getting married, they shouldn’t be forced or blackmailed in anyway to get married to anyone. It should be a decision they willingly made for themselves so they would be ready to take full responsibility of whatever happens in that institution. This is because, people are quick to deny their responsibilities when they never wanted something in the first place. I see that a lot of scenarios here in school where a lot of students don’t take their studies seriously because that’s not the course they wanted in the first place and that is also possible in marriage too.

As long as an individual is old enough to make decisions and be responsible for it, they are free to choose whoever they want to spend the rest of their lives with. If they choose someone that is way older than them or younger than them, it’s their choice to make. Interfering in that will only cause problems for us in the long run. People will only have more reasons to be irresponsible. Making a rule to checkmate individuals range in marriage will only cause more chaos and I personally think it’s not wise to interfere in it but that’s just my opinion.

For a second, let’s imagine we can’t know the age of people, I think we will have a better judgment of ourselves. We will focus more on the important things than the periphery.

Thank you for reading through. ❤️