Good Cop, Bad Cop: Finding Equilibrium in Modern Parenting

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Marriage is like starting a new life, as both the husband and wife start sharing their responsibility and it's like a new start. After marriage the big change happened when they have kids. The parenting is one of the most crucial part of our life. Now days the kids are very sharp and intelegent but they are sensitive too. If I look back when we were kids that way the time when parenting was not that gentle. Their were many occasions in my childhood when me or my siblings were scolded by our parents or teachers badly for our mistakes. My parents were neither too strict with us not they were very soft. As per situation their parenting also get changed, for good work we got appreciation and if we do something wrong we got punishment also. Two days ago only my wife share the part of conversation she has with our neighbours. They all get together in the evening with kids. This is the time when they all relaxed, talked and kids play with other kids. Our neighbours told my wife that we must go with gentle parenting, before my wife reply to her the other neighbour reply that it's the most hard thing she has asked to do and they all laughed. The point is now days everyone is more concerned about the parenting which was not the case when we were kids, and I guess the sensitivity kids has now days is the one major reason.

We have two kids, and we observed both have different behaviour. Gurseerat my daughter was very calm when she was kid and now also she is clam only most of the time but form some months we observed that she got irritated very easily and frequently. And to opposite to it our younger kid Gumehar, he is one step ahead of her in terms of all noughty a activity you can think of. Of course both has age difference of more then 5 years but when we compare both it's huge difference in their behaviour. In our house me and my wife follow one rule, if I am strict with kids for something my wife will be always soft and vice versa. This is very important as kids need someone who can give them support and pamper them. As I mentioned the kids are very sensitive so they need someone to whom they can share what is in their mind.
Some parents believe that rewarding kids for their good work is importance and upto some extend its right also in my opinion too, but it should not looks over rewarding. Then the kids do not value the rewards they got as it become one usual thing for them and in the same way they also not get punished for each and every mistake they do. Many time they do mistakes unknowingly so what is the sense of punishing them for something they even not knowing. First step is make the understand that what mistake they have done and how to avoid the same in future. Yes if ther are repeating the same mistake again and again then it's matter of concern.

I am in favor of balance approach neither to be too soft not to be too harsh. Kids get rewarded for good work and get punished for wrong doing but first they should understand they mistake.

What are your views let me know in comment section.
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