Marriage is one institution that
requires lots of patience, commitment, and selflessness, but most people get married for the wrong reasons or refuse to commit to what sustains the marriage, the reason divorce rates are on the rise these days.

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I don't think anyone goes into marriage in the hopes of getting divorced after a certain number of years, but circumstances beyond them k, some call it irreconcilable difference makes them choose the route, it is never easy on either of the couples or children when divorce happens, it takes a lot of emotional strength and most times becomes traumatizing for both parent and children.

Although in our society, divorce is frowned upon and single mons especially are usually stigmatized, the reason a lot of women stay married even at the detriment of their health and life, I'm not in support of divorce either, as from personal experience and also listening to other married couples, no marriage is without its challenges, it takes the commitment of both couples to keep the spark on, apologize when guilty, even when not at times for peace sake and always have that full consciousness that they are in this for life and would make it work.

The only time I would fully support divorce or separation is when it becomes life-threatening in whatever way. Sadly, it takes a toll on not just the couples involved but the children as well. Those days, our mothers endured bitter marriages just for the sake of their children, so they could have that fatherly protection, but some never survive to enjoy the fruit of their labor, the reason I advise young and single girls to never rely solely on getting a handsome husband but a better father for their children

I've witnessed how broken homes take a toll on the couples and children involved, this was a case where the father could not provide for the family and never even bothered to try, and the wife got frustrated after taking several menial jobs to hold the family together, at a point they divorced after having five children, the husband turned to alcohol after his wife left him and always balanced her for his downfall financially since he was doing well when they got married.

The wife relocated to the village and kept on struggling with different jobs to take care of her five children, while the oldest child took on the role of both parents, caring for her younger ones while her mom was away from a very tender age of 7, and by the time she was a little bit old enough to start working, she joined her mum, hustling to take care of her siblings, bearing the burden of both parent from a tender age.

Today, both the mother and first child lost their lives, probably due to the long-term suffering and emotional trauma, as they both died of the same kind of illness, the father still roams around like a mentally deranged person after addiction to alcohol, while the rest of the children are now scattered living with different family members, it got so worst that whenever anyone in the family has dispute in their marriages they are often used as an example and asked to think twice If they want to suffer same fate, as divorce without care from noth parent often lead to traumatized children.

I have respect for couples like we see some celebrity couples do, having time for their kids even when separated, don't let the anger on your spouse be transferred to your innocent kids, they shouldn't suffer for their parent's mistake, I wish any couple who have no option than the divorce route keep this to heart.

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