The Power of Discipline does not kill
The topic of discipline has been a subject of debate for ages, with no end in sight. As a vital aspect of parenting, discipline methods can vary greatly from one individual to another. Reflecting on my childhood, I recall the strict discipline my parents instilled in me, which often led me to wonder if they were my real parents. However, as I grew older, I came to appreciate the value of their discipline.
The Bible emphasizes the importance of discipline in Proverbs 22:6, Train up a child on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it Another verse, Proverbs 13:24, states, Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them
How do I go about disciplining my children?
In my household, I maintain a set of rules and regulations that my children are expected to follow, both at home and in public. Open communication is another key in my home, as I listen to their concerns and address any issues promptly. I also demonstrate good behavior and values because I am a role model to them, as I believe that children learn from what they see. I believe that children portray their attitude right from what they learn from their parents. If you teach them how to lie, or to steal, or to fight, or to bully, they will grow in that part.
For instance, if I don't play in the compound, why should they? If I don't visit people's homes for idle chit-chat, why should they? If I don't eat carelessly, why should they? I believe that children should reflect on the values and behavior of their parents. Remember, what I see I remember and that's one of the philosophies of life👌
While I don't support the "no cane policy," I do believe that discipline should be tailored to each child's unique needs and personality. Some children require more stringent discipline, while others respond better to positive reinforcement. My cousin's child has one habit of destroying things whenever she is angry, and this girl was still under one year old till it grew to become an attitude among the public. Now, the time the parents saw the negative conduct, it portrayed the kind of parents they were and wanted to correct, but it was too late to start disciplining her.
To ensure that my children don't go back to misbehavior, I prioritize the following:
- Feeding them with the word of God: Regularly sharing biblical values and principles with them can be a great help.
- Consistent prayer: Praying for their well-being, guidance, and wisdom. Don't curse. Rather, pray.
- Modeling good behavior: Demonstrating the values and behavior I expect from them in my attitude.
- Encouraging independent thinking: Helping them develop problem-solving skills to navigate challenging situations.
- Zero tolerance for misbehavior: Addressing misbehavior promptly and consistently. Let them understand that such misconduct will not be tolerated. Shun it off before it turns out to be a pain in the future.
- Reflection and self-awareness: Encouraging them to reflect on their actions and think critically about their behavior. Then, create an atmosphere for questions and answers.
- Appreciation and acknowledgment: Applaud their little efforts so that they can do more. Appreciate and give kudos when necessary; don't always scold them for their little mistakes. Be a friend they see in their parents.
On a final note, discipline is not a one-size-fits-all approach. It's essential to consider each child's uniqueness, personality, and developmental stage when disciplining them. While we may not be perfect, we can strive to do our best to nurture these precious gifts from God all to His glory.
This is my participation in the #hivelearners weekly writing edition on the topic: This is Discipline.
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The first point is that communication is very important. Often, you'd feel like you aren't listening, but the truth is that they listen.
Prayer is an important factor as well, there are behaviors your children will portray that you'd be surprised as a parent and that is where prayer comes into play.
Exactly, my dear.
We need to use all manners of approach in discipline till we get a positive result.
Well it's quite good each and every child should be in discipline.
Yes.
Discipline does not kill just do it in an appropriate way.
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These points were very good and I liked them a lot. I liked the point about reflection or self awareness a lot. I feel that self awareness is very important because with this children learn many things themselves. But how to develop this skill in children is the job of parents.
You are very right; they need to have reflection and self-awareness of themselves so that they can navigate difficult situations in the future.
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