Gardening or Gambling; The Blueprints Of Raising A Child

Seeing this topic it really took me to some months back where we seriously arguing about this topic, and to be honest I don’t even know who won the argument, a child can be born by good parents and end up becoming a bad child, and then again a child can be born by bad parents end up being a good child.
This topic isn’t something thats small, there’s a saying that when a child is born the child belongs to everyone, which is a bit true because when a child is born, the child has got other family members and friends around, the child would definitely go to school, so its not just the parent training that child, the whole society is also contributing into that child’s life and it could either be in a good way or a bad way.

My homecell teacher once said, a child in his class said that he loves to hurt and see people cry, and he likes doing bad things to other children, so he throwed a question and said, “is it possible for a child to be born that way” I stood and disagreed and my answer was that, the child must have had some experiences like physical abuse or molestation or must have been watching cartoons and tv shows that portray those kind of characters, or it could be a genetic trait.

From when a child is born, the child learns to feed from the mothers breast, learns how to sit, learns how to creep, learns how to walk and also learns how to say words, and if you watch closely a child does the things that he is been told or the things that he sees other people around him doing.

Some people might have been bad kids while growing up and only to end up being the kindest and most sweetest people when they become an adult because they now know that being bad to people just because someone was bad to them isn’t right and they must have probably learnt how to be good through the hardway.

And in another way, I also think that there could be genetic trait from parents or forefathers, a childs both can parent could be good or bad people but there’s alwys a family member somewhere or not even in existence anymore that has that good or bad traits, I’m thinking towards that direction because an apple doesn’t fall far from the tree and there’s no smoke without a fire.

There are so many blue print on how not to have bad child and everything is not a toss of dice, its more like gardening and not gambling and i will share a few and the first on my list is by modeling the exact behavior you want to see in your child, this is very important, if you tell your child to lie to the people who come looking for you then be rest assured that child will take lying to be a normal thing, as a a parent or guardian teach and discipline the young ones with love and not anger, set clear boundaries and stick to them, avoid overindulgence because one’s you start giving them everything they want and exactly how they want it, then they will grow up thinking that life is a bed of roses and they can always get anything they want. And as a Nigerian we don’t play with prayers, because thats the only key, consistent prayers for the children so that they’re not led into temptation.

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