Divorce And Priorities-Who Comes First, The Parent Or The Child.

Divorce is never an easy decision, It comes with pain, disappointment, and sometimes guilt. It’s a life-altering experience not only for the two people who once vowed to build a life together but also for the children born into that union.

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Honestly nobody takes out their time and money to get married only to expect a heart breaking divorce, divorce isn’t such a nice thing to do or to experience, but however when the marriage becomes toxic and unbearable for either of the partners to bear, it is advisable to save your life first, some partners are very toxic and really unbearable, at first they treat their partner nicely and somehow along the line their character changes, now this is the part where they say love is not enough to keep a marriage, it takes love, sacrifices and commitment to keep the home.

We all understand how heartbreaking divorce can be, it shatters hopes, dreams, distrupt routines and changes the future, and for the children the effect can be very deep and intense. They may experience anxiety, confusion and they maybe even secretly blame theirselves for the separation of their parents. The sense of stability they once had may feel threatened.

On one hand children deserve to grow up in a loving and stable environment to enhance how they behave, how they see life and their performance at school too, but on the other hand a mentally unstable parent cannot provide that peaceful serenity for the kids.

To me, divorce should be an option if your partner is toxic, because trust me if something bad should happen to either of the spouse, the children will get affected for a while and they will surely live their lives to the fullest, nobody should stay in a marriage that is life threatening, however if the situation is workable then there are so many measures to take to help the situation and keep the children’s emotional health safe.
So instead of asking who comes first, the real question should be how can both the children and the affected parent be helped.

Truth is staying in a broken relationship just because of the children doesn’t always protect the children, I have seen and heard so many cases of how children who live in an unstable home go to school and tell their friends and teachers how their parents often argue and fight at home, infact growing up in a home that there’s constant arguments, fight, silent treatment and emotional detachment can be very damaging and even worse than the aftermath of a divorce. Children don’t really just need two parents under one roof but they need love, care, peace and emotional safety.

When divorce is handled thoughtfully, with having open communication, co-parenting cooperation and access to emotional support, it might definitely help both the children and parents and somehow they could find healing from the emotional trauma.
However if the situation is life threatening like I said earlier then the parent should first of all quit before anything is done.

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