The Art of Educating: Being a Father Also Means Knowing How to Establish Healthy Limits

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education is something that is part of us in our daily lives, we can also say that through education, it is where the behavior of a critical individual is developed and prepared to be in society. We are not born educated, we are basically shaped by our parents since we were little.

I believe you've walked down the street or in any public environment and come across a rude child who does everything the opposite of what their parents say, right? Or worse, sometimes parents don't even set limits for their children and let children do whatever they want, this is a beautiful example of a spoiled child where, for them, they can do anything and there is no one to make them change.

At the same time when we see these types of uneducated children, we think about the education that their parents failed to provide. I think this is completely shameful and of course the blame lies squarely with these irresponsible parents. Because, if in childhood she had no limits, in her adulthood she will be someone who will cause a lot of problems in society.

Education of the Past As Traditional Method

In my childhood, I was raised on conversations and physical punishments, I was beaten with a belt, a tree branch, I knelt under corn as a form of punishment for my grandmother (may God rest her soul) , and in flip-flops. Although these ways may even be "cruel" for some people, know that today I am a good man and that I always value justice and seek to do the right thing.

Even though this type of education was given by my parents, even through the "traditional methods" of the past, today I have not become a delinquent or criminal. Make no mistake, even though I went through some of these painful moments, throughout my life I learned faster and faster to become more aware of my actions and take more responsibility.

I can't blame my parents for the way they treated me, they love me and showed it in their own way while I was growing up. Of course, in their time, in my parents' time, it was like that and even worse, but I believe that the tendency for us is to always look for ways to make sure your child doesn't go through what you went through in your childhood and adolescence.

Challenges Parents Face Today

Today we have an extra challenge because of technology that is constantly growing. As a teacher, I know the difficulties that some parents go through because their children pay more attention to what happens on the screen than listening to what their parents have to say. But we cannot lower our heads, we have to be firm and demonstrate to our children the consequences that their actions can cause in their path.

Eu sou pais de 3 filhos sendo dois meninos e uma bebê linda de 2 anos. Essa última veio literalmente de surpresa e nem eu e nem minha esposa estava esperando. Temos 3 tipos de idade e busco sempre educar eles em seu devido tempo, pois cada um tem um entendimento de mundo e pessoal diferente do outro irmão. Não adianta eu exigir algo do mais novo a mesma forma como o mais velho por exemplo.

Ultimamente eu e minha esposa estamos adotando a abordagem da conversa. Eu sempre digo para eles que o castigo físico será o último recurso que aplicarei. Antes disso, o diálogo deve prevalecer entre nós. Felizmente, isso tem dado certo, mas sempre no tom de que não posso deixar muita liberdade para eles decidirem fazer o que quiserem.

Nós pais devemos sempre impor limites para nossos filhos, talvez seja isso o problema que vemos hoje quando encontramos crianças desde muito novas sendo mal educadas e até falam muito palavrão. Aqui em casa não existe isso, existe o amor e o diálogo. Mas não acho errado se caso alguém quiser educar seus filhos pelos métodos antigos.

Ser pai é algo como um dom divino, uma dádiva de Deus e sou muito agradecido por ter meus 3 filhos que amo muito. A minha luta diária para eles terem a educação que merecem é constante. Sei que posso sempre melhorar, mas estou satisfeito pelos resultados. É gratificante quando ouvimos pelos nossos vizinhos ou até mesmo pelos seus professores da escola, o quão educados os meus filhos são e isso é uma demonstração de que estamos no caminho certo.

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