When people change, promises become hard to keep

Some people make promises out of good intentions, while some just make them to escape when they find themselves in a tight spot. You can be going out and you meet some thugs hailing and praising you, expecting you to drop money, but instead of being blunt and tell them you have no money, you can promise to give them the next time you cross paths, knowing in your mind that you are never fulfilling such a promise.

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People who make promises out of good intention want to fulfill it but some factors might make it impossible for them to do so, A man can promise to give you money at the end of the month when he collect his salary only to run into some financial crisis that ends up swallowing most of his salary for that month before he receive it, in that scenario, he won't be able to fulfill the promise he made to you cos he is also not financially okay. The promisee won't understand; he would just feel the promisor didn't want to fulfil his promise anymore for no reason, but not everything can be explained.

When it comes to broken promises, I have broken promises I made to people, and people have broken the promises they made to me as well...

The one I still remember vividly was about my Ex.

The last chat I had with my ex was when she reminded me of the promise I made never to break up with her if she didn't cheat on me.

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Back then when the love burned bright and butterflies bloomed in our hearts, she asked me what offence she would commit that would make me leave her and I told her one of things I detest in a relationship is a partner that cheat and no matter how I love someone, if I catch them cheating on me, No remedy.

She asked if that was all. I said yes and promised never to leave her as long as she doesn't cheat. Unfortunately, I had to walk away from the relationship after a year and a few months because we lost the spark, and it was no longer how it used to be.

She did some things which made me doubt if I was with the right person, she expected so much from me and gave little in return, she wanted me to treat her as a wife, but refused to carry out the responsibilities of a wife.

I am a kind of person who gives my loved ones a lot of chances before I say Enough is enough. She did a lot of things that ruined the feelings I had for her. I tried my best to make things work by warning her a lot of times, but she never changed. The deal breaker was when I could not trust her anymore.

In the end, we had a misunderstanding, and I let her be; she didn't contact me either. 1 month later, she reached out to me, but it was too late because I was already in a new relationship. she was surprised and didn't believe the evidence of me being in a new relationship until she realized I was not joking, then she tried to guilt-trip me with the promise I made but I didn't fall for that...

I broke the promise because she was no longer the lady I fell in love with, she changed to something I do not understand and also I saw signs she was cheating but she was so smart that I didn't catch her red handed but then, I won't stay in a relationship that I have no peace of mind even if it meant breaking a promise.

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One of the times that someone broke their promises to me was when one of the elders in my former church messaged me on whatsapp, he told me he needed 30 000 Naira for something urgent and pleaded for me to borrow him that he would return it in 3 days which happened to be on Monday, it was his first time of asking me for such and also his position in the church made me believe he was going to return the money so I didn't hesitate a bit before I transferred the money to him.

On the day he promised to return the money, I didn't receive any transfer from him, and he didn't send me a message to explain the reason he failed to fulfill his promise, We met in the church the following Sunday, he didn't mention anything about the money and up till now, he didn't return the money and I didn't ask... This happened 3 years ago.

Maybe I should have asked him but back then I hate asking people to return the money they borrow, I believed everyone should know the right thing to do, if you borrow money from someone and you were not able to pay back at the said time, at least let them know the reason and work on paying it but not saying anything only shows you are cunning and dishonest person.

People like him are the reason why others don't receive help when they need it, cos we will just assume they won't return it too, and people like him are many in this world... Anyway, people change, and I have changed too. I rarely lend people money except to people who are close to me, and if they don't pay back at the said time and leave no message, I will remind them myself.

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