Let the pain end with you

Hello Learners

One of the prayers for those searching or waiting for love is to never meet the right person at the wrong time. There is no joy in meeting a good/kind person when they are already damaged and their heart has changed from what it used to be.

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When it comes to relationships, we have many people suffering for an offence committed by another. Most people often put their heart and soul into being in love for the first time. Unfortunately, they turn off their loving heart once they are jilted and dumped by the one they love, whoever they meet after that period suffers for the deed of their ex.

In the act of revenge, they also tend to hurt those who truly love them; they end up pushing away the person who came to heal their broken heart, and in fact end up damaging more hearts too.

One easy way to know a damaged person in a relationship is by their words and actions. They no longer put their all in a relationship; they start giving excuses like I can't cook for you until you marry me, I can't do this, and can't do that yet they want you to put in your 100 percent into it.

The worst kind of relationship to be in is the one that your partner hasn't gotten over what their ex did to them, cos whenever they remember, they will take it out on you.

When it comes to passing pains around due to past trauma, another good example is an abusive father and his son... Some fathers use an iron hand to train their children; if they make any small mistakes, they bring out the cane, beating their child black and blue to the extent that the child gets used to such treatment.

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Some grow up with such trauma and also take it out on their children, cos they now see it as a normal thing, while others know how bad it is and the effect it has on them and would never wish to treat their kid the same way.

There is a saying that an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, such is the case of those who got betrayed and cheated in relationship and they decided to take the same route and treat others they come across the same way, this does not heal them, instead it will only create more monsters and hurt souls like them, the same goes to those who were abused by their parents, this only create more abusive parents in the future...

The best thing we can do is to make sure it ends with us. If anyone hurt you, do not have the intention of passing the pain to others, let it end with you so you can heal, and others don't have a reason to heal or cause damage to the world.. Most of us have been hurt by our first love, but the way we react to it is different; some turn to players, while others still choose to be themselves and remain their good selves. We should not let the pain change us

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