Ghosting: My best Self-Defense
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Some people can be so funny, they hurt you and pretend not to know. Then they ask, only to hear it from your lips, so they can offer a quick apology. As if sorry could erase the pain, mend the betrayal, and undo the damage they caused.
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I have mastered the art of ghosting. I find it easy to ghost anyone at the slightest provocation. My mind is already full, and I have no room for unnecessary drama. I simply return the energy I am given.
The human heart can be wicked; they smile with you to your face, yet laugh at you behind your back. You will think the love is real until trouble comes, and the same friends you trusted are either mocking you or fueling the fire against you.
It is in your time of need that you discover who your true friends are, and who was only there for the good times. I have met many people in life. Some left me beautiful memories, while others came as big lessons.
I am not someone who keeps malice or seeks revenge. My best form of self-defense is ghosting and cutting ties completely... Once I realize your presence in my life is giving me a headache or putting me at risk, I activate the ghost mode.
I am an overthinker, so I tend to analyze and think things through before making a decision, and most time I make a decision when I no longer feel comfortable with having someone around...
A few years ago, 2022 to be precise. I registered for the WAEC exam in a private school that my nephew attends... During the exam period, I bonded with some of his classmates, and I grew fond of one because of his enthusiasm that I even let him visit me.
My plan was to introduce him to the Hive platform so he could be free from the unemployment tag. Life after secondary school is hard for people without a rich background. I have been there and I like him to the extent that I want an easy life for him.
The last day that they signed out from school, he visited me again and that day I showed him somethings to motivate him but instead of him to be motivated, he went home to tell his mum what I do not know, What I just know is the mum called me the next day to thank me about being nice to him and the following day, she called and guess what!
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She told me she is expecting some visitors, but doesn't have money to entertain them, so I should please send her money to entertain her visitors. It sounds strange to me, cos when do people start begging for money to entertain visitors, but being the first time, I gave her the money
A few days later, she called again and told me she is a film director. She would love it if I could be a sponsor for her new film. I was already feeling annoyed with all the ridiculous requests, but I didn't say much. I promised to give her something the following week. She didn't forget to call me the day I promised. I sent her 4k, and she was like Is that all, I said yes, she didn't appreciate it, I guess she was expecting 100k or millions from me.
Her reaction that day was all I needed to cancel her and her child... I stop picking up her calls and replying to her messages... One common thing about people like this is that they are shameless; they don't care if you ghost them or ignore them, they will continue to message.
In the end, I had to block her and the boy when I warned her to stop begging me for money, but she won't listen.
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It's a best strategy to return the energy that's given to us. The boy somehow tried taking a shortcut by telling his mom what you have instead of him aspiring to put in the work to have what you did have. People can be hard headed in their ways of thinking even when you tell them this isn't going to work for you. Better to block them and keep moving forward :)
I blame the mother more. The boy is a teenager and is not blessed to think like an adult, so not a bad thing he told her mum about the person who wants to help him, but the mother is the bad one to want to use that as a means to exploit the person.
Ghosting people when they are giving you a kind of headache is the best. You don't have to allow them to cause some kind of havoc in your life. The best is to let them off from you.
yeah! No time to waste with toxic people.
For me, staying away from people who hurt you and don't see anything wrong with it, is not bad....it is actually part of healing. I tend to ghost when i feel drained from talking to people, holding on, and not getting the same energy in return.