Fulfilling promises is an act of kindness and love.

This week first prompt brings a very interesting subject to the table and I feel that I have a very personal connection to this topic of discussion because for me, I’d always tell my friends that one of the deal breakers for me is people not keeping their promises. I don’t know why but somehow I feel very betrayed when someone makes me a promise and not do it.

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For some reasons I still can’t place my hands on. It pains me sooooo much maybe because I take promises very seriously and most time when I make people promise, I’d try as much as possible to fulfill it. Because I take breaking promises seriously or because it’s a deal breaker for me or a turn off, makes me take my promises very seriously. I’d rather have you not making me promises than to make me a promise and not keep to it. No matter how big or little the promise is, a promise is a promise and should be kept.

In as much as I am very keen on keeping the promises I make to people, there are some situations that may arise which could lead to the promise not being fulfilled. When this type of situation arises which of course should be rare, then it’s understandable. What it’s not understandable is that moment when breaking promises has become an order of the day thing to someone. There are some persons I know that I will never take their promise as anything, it holds no water for me because over time, they have broken their promise over and over and over again.

So no matter what they say to me, I don’t hold unto it because it will surely end in premium regret. These people have bad characters and there’s nothing to understand about them breaking promises because it’s their lifestyle. I am talking about a situation when someone who has integrity to do what they promised and they always deliver, meets a situation that makes him or her not able to fulfill the promise and this situation doesn’t happen all the time. It’s once in a while.

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In a situation like this. It is understandable. Since it’s not a regular thing. As someone who takes keeping to promises very seriously, I feel bad if for any reason I am not able to keep to my promise which only happens very rarely. If I know that I don’t have what it takes to fulfill a promise, I’d rather not make it. I had a situation earlier this year where I made a promise to a friend to help out with some money because the person was in a tight situation.

At the moment, I didn’t have the money and I was expecting some money and was willing to help out if the money eventually enters. Well, things didn’t work out as I imagined and I wasn’t able to help. I felt bad that I couldn’t keep that promise to that friend. We had some issues later and haven’t really been that close again. It’s kinda complicated though. While on the other hand, I have had people break their promises to me over and over again.

Infact one of my friends is a chairman in breaking promises. He has so much shown me shege that I don’t ever take his promises serious. Putting hope on his promises is setting myself up for a mini heart break. So I just listen to him when he says anything and nod my head. If he brings fine, if he doesn’t, it still fine. Just alittle back story on one of my little experience with him.

So one of those days, I was so craving ice cream and he knew how much I love ice cream. He promised he was going to send me money to get Ice cream on a Sunday. Just three thousand Naira. I sent my account number to him on that Sunday morning and don’t see any alert all through the day. I reminded him everyday for five days one of the days he told me that my ice cream that he promised me was one of the least things on his mind. Ahhhh. I was so heart broken.

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After five days of waiting and reminding, he finally sent me two thousand Naira after a long nag. I was so pissed off. I was on my own and he made me a promise to buy me ice cream. I was just tired of the whole experience and I felt so bad. And he keeps doing this type of thing over and over again. Well, he’s not the only one. A lot of people do not seem to have the integrity of keeping to their words.

I think that there could be dire situations where a promise could be broken due to unforeseen circumstances, but making the act of breaking your promises a constant thing is simply a no no and a total lack of integrity. When you make someone a promise, be keen to fulfill it. I feel that fulfilling a promise gives hope and it’s an act of kindness and love.

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