A SEAT AT THE TABLE

The emotions you feel when you look around and it dawned on you that you are among the few or probably the only one lacking behind in all of your peers.

Whewww!

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I can remember how my cousin sister got married to a man she doesn't really love just because all her friends were walking down the aisle. Few years later she cried that she didn't know what she was thinking when she said I do to a man that showed her all evidence of being abusive. It took her a long time before she was able to acknowledge that it was all done out of peer pressure.

Everyone is getting married, I don't want to be left behind.

I have witnessed a lot of these peer pressure at every stage of my adolescent life up till now. There was a time that I felt odd among my friends because I was the only one that didn't have a boyfriend. I tried so much to get one in order to feel belonged but none of the boys excites me thus i decided to take my time which resulted to me cutting down the amount of time I spend with my friends. I stopped hanging out most times with my friends so that i wouldn't be pressured more than I can stomach.

What about the the era of BlackBerry phone?.
Ohh my!

That was when i was in the university. Having a BlackBerry phone automatically elevates your status and gains you maximum respect among your peers. A lot of my couremates did crazy things to get BlackBerry phones and ofcourse I want one too but how to get it was the problem especially when my family do not see the need to get me one because they were already spending a fortune on my education. My best girl in school got a new rich boyfriend and cajoled him into releasing his atm card to her. She went straight to a phone shop and paid for a BlackBerry torch popularly called BB torch. The guy screamed when he received the debit alert and he called my friend to immediately return his atm back.

I remembered a man proposing sex to me so that he can give me his curve 4. If not for the good home training that my parents installed in me I would have fallen for that cheap trick. Well I turned him down and guess what, the next month I was gifted the latest BlackBerry torch 2 by my cousin sister who came back from abroad.

That was the universe blessing me for saying no to that cheap offer earlier.

Presently I am facing the greatest pressure in my career. Somehow I think that I am way behind my other peers and it's really bothering me. My peers in the real estate sectors just happened to be doing really great better than I am, if i must confess. But one thing I did with all that pressure is to channel it into something positive.

Motivation.

It makes me to wake up every morning with lots of enthusiasm to hit the day and make it happen. Sometimes I do feel frustrated and flustered but I keep equipping myself and reminding myself that oneday I will get there too. I remind myself that everyone have their time, that because it have not happened yet dosen't mean that it will not happen.

So everyday i dust off the pressures that comes with both my career and personal life bearing in my mind the words of Terry Perry...

While others were waiting for a seat at the table, I was building my own and knew God would prepare my table for me in the presence of my enemies!.