Detaching But Not Cutting Ties

Letting go of the people we love and care about is the most difficult decision to take no matter how rugged minded person one may be. Most especially when you didn't just love and care about them alone but they care about you too.

At that point in time, it looks like the whole world is turning against the person taking the decision because without denying the real fact, we extract part of our energy to push through in life through our family by knowing that they are with us even when things are still hard and we can hardly perform our responsibilities to them.

Now thinking about detaching from such people, letting go of them in pursuit of our dreams and what we want may be a hard nut to crack but the real fact lies in self-fulfilment.
What will be the essence of living just for our family when we are not fulfilling our own personal purpose in life? What's our life worth when there is no inner happiness that we are living the life we wish to live.

At times, it may not even be in the career aspect of life but might be in marital aspect.
I've seen someone break the heart of a friend, of years of commitment in relationship hoping to lead to marriage soon because the guy's dad had an alliance with another friend for his daughter to his own son to strengthen their business bond and I was like, so this really happen in reality?

The guy didn't even bother breaking up things on time until the morning of the wedding day. Probably he thought he could still fix things or so on his own without involving my friend but unfortunately they got married and left my beautiful friend crying and wailing and we had to start the whole consoling and healing therapy.

In a nutshell, the guy was calling my friend back after 3 days of wedding that he wants to divorce the lady cos he can't cope and that he was forced and they were only married on paper. Like who does that? He went as far as stalking her to receive her at the airport when it wasn't known till date how he got the whole traveling plans and arrival schedule.

If you were so afraid of losing her then why couldn't you stand for what you want back then instead of giving in to a life-signed contract with another woman because it was imposed on you? He's married now but not happy and unfulfilled with the kind of marital life he had dreamt and planned of (probably he's happy now though) and we all know that a wrong marriage is like a semi-hell.

We should learn to stand our ground for what we want and believe is right for us and would bring us that self-fulfiling spirit and growth that we are not just existing but really existing for what we want for ourselves.
Not a pressure or imposing from family should take that away from us and if they can't agree with us at the moment, we can wisely, in a place of love and not harshly or violently take the exit route.

I said that and bold it because most times we let go of our loved ones in the state of we want to prove it to them. No! They are not our competitors and we must not turn them to be.

Letting them go is not cutting ties with them or trashing the bond. We only needed the space to ensure we are staying on track for ourselves and not just for our family alone and that's why we are taking the exit door for the time being.
Time will heal their wounds and ours and we can always pass in through the entrance door in their warmth and loving hands again.

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