When we talk about life and some of the things that make life interesting to live, then we have to talk about hopes, promises, forgetfulness, death, joy, and sorrow.
All of these are some of the reasons why we can live on, just assume a life where we don't have death and everyone just keeps living, also assume a life where we already know what the future will appear to look like, assume a world where you can't even forget what has happened in the past.
When it comes to making promises, I can say it's one of the most delicate decisions to make as humans. There are times when we get pushed to make promises, especially when we are so happy, that the joy in our hearts might push us to make promises we might not be able to fulfill in the end. That's how heavy promises might be. So when we are in these times of joy then it's better we are watchful of our words.
Another is a time of sadness, we might lay curses that we never can tell what the impacts will look like. In the end, we might regret taking such an action. So our emotions are just a reason and a driving force towards these two. When we are too happy we should watch our words, and when in extreme sadness, we should also be careful of our words.
Getting to know the impact of broken promises and how hurtful they could be at the end of those that were promised, I have learned to keep my promises or not even make them at all. At times there are inevitable situations that will warrant broken promises, but you just have to hope it doesn’t hurt the other person. We are all humans and we can't be perfect.
I have made promises that I failed to accomplish, but I have tried to make sure I keep them with all I can. And if I don’t, then I am apologizing regretfully for the cause of action.
There was a time when I borrowed money from a friend of mine. Out of joy, the project will become successful if the person gets to lend me the money. I promised I would pay it back before a certain period. I have worked towards that, but at some point life happened, unforeseen circumstances showed up, and I couldn't meet up with my promises anymore. It was a sad thing for me, but I am always apologizing for the broken promises.
I have learned to try to keep to my promises and be a man of my word. I also don't like people breaking their promises but I am always prepared for it. We are all humans. So it won't come to me as a shock or surprise.
Earlier this year one of my cousins broke me with his failed promises, not only that he disappoint me alone, but he also made me promise other people based on his words. In the end, I was like a bad person to those people.
He called me all of a sudden and asked me if my farm could take a certain amount of fingerlings. He told me he just connected with a client who would be willing to supervise my farm and any other farms I know around. It might be a breakthrough for me. I trusted his words and went ahead to meet with other farmers and told them about his words.
When it was time for the agreed date, he didn’t even respond. I called him but he was acting like I was a thorn in his neck. The heck! Mum heard about it and then she then told me that whenever he says A, I should be prepared for Z because that has been his way from onset.
In conclusion, Breaking promises is not the issue, we are humans and that's inevitable at times. But letting the victim know you are deeply sorry and responsible for the broken promises is what matters most.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in the hive-learners community for the Week 172 Edition 1, and the topic to be discussed is A BROKEN PROMISE.
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Truly we make promises when we’re too happy, and later we might regret it. I also like how you talked about how it’s better not to make promises than to break them. I hate to make promises to people because I know that I might not fulfil it, that's why I love giving people whenever there's enough money with me.
Most times people make promises they tend not to fulfill at the end of the day it's really sad when someone puts their hopes on a person and at the end of the day the person dissappoint them
It’s true that we all make mistakes, but broken promises leave behind a kind of pain that “sorry” can’t always fix. Trust, once cracked, is hard to rebuild.