LOVE UNPLUGGED

Building something digitally is more like building something with faith because you haven’t seen the person, yet you love them so so much. I have been there and I’m still there. I know just how much it means to build a relationship digitally and so far so good, I’m just grateful that all of this is happening. Yes, I most times wish I was more physically close to my partner but I won’t want to undermine the benefits we have enjoyed for building what we have now, digitally.

It takes time, patience, effort, forgiveness, love, understanding, communication and more to build a relationship digitally. I mean, you guys haven’t met but you love them so much that you always want to spend more of your time with them and tell them everything about you as much as you can. You are always happy everytime you see them online and even more happier when it’s you they are there for. Things always feel differently when you see how much they try to be there for you even when they haven’t even met you before. The love and concern they feel towards you, it’s all beautiful and all of this was made possible thanks to our digital world.

According to the #digi-prompts for this week, we are asked to share “what makes love over the internet feel real, meaningful or even complicated to you?” Personally for me, there are a lot of things that makes love over the internet feels real but the top on the listen is communication. I don’t need my partner to always be in my DMs or always on call with me for me to say they are communicating, but I want to see them put in the effort. That effort alone means so much to me. A lot of times I have heard people say you make time for what is valuable and I believe that because when I look at the list of things I give my time to, they are mostly things I attach so much value to.

And for a digital relationship, it is paramount that both parties involved are making effort to spend time with each other and you both talk about things together. I can be so busy sometimes but the moment my partner calls, I always feel it’s my responsibility to respond to that call. Except of course I’m in the middle of something very important and after that, I owe it to my partner to call him back as soon as I can to explain things to them. And if they are not happy about it, it’s fine to say sorry and try to remind them just how much they mean to you rather than feel they don’t care about your life because that’s not true.

My partner can be busy the whole day but I always appreciate it when despite how busy he is, he still finds time to reach out to me. Communication is everything for me. Either through text or voice or even through mere stickers and emojis. I just love it when he tries to make me laugh or when he laughs to my own silly jokes. It makes me feel safe and loved. If something is not going well with me and he is able to spot it even without me telling him, that makes love feel real for me. When he does things without me telling him to do them, that makes love feel real. Like him randomly picking up his phone at odd hours to tell me just how much he loves me. Or him helping me do something I said casually.

Communicating often with our partners digitally helps us build more trust, understanding and confidence in what we share. No matter the circumstances that we are prone to face, because of how much we communicate and have communicated, it will help us learn how to trust and forgive each other when necessary. Forgiveness is also very key in every relationship, be it physical or digital. We will definitely offend our partners and they will offend us too and as long as they are honest, we should always be willing to forgive them because the truth is they will be the ones that offend us the most because that’s just how much they mean to us.

So as long as my partner and I sustains communication even in the good and bad days, that goes far to show just how much love we are building.

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