Lies We Tell Ourselves About the World
"Things are going to get better."
At least that's what "they" say and most of us operate on the assumption that "they" know what they're talking about. Mix in a little bit of hopium, and you end up with a situation in which people keep hanging on by a thread hoping that things will get better.
But is that really true? Will "things" actually get better?
I often find myself questioning this and when I look at it I can't help but think that the myth that things are going to get better is something that's provided to everyone simply for the sake of keeping us from changing direction. I don't just mean changing direction, I mean radically changing direction.
Perhaps the biggest fallacy underlying these assertions this this idea that "things: are actually something.
I have a growing feeling that there is no such things as "things" there is only you and what you do, and the actions you take. "Things" are merely a way to hand over accountability for what's happening to something outside ourselves because it's a little bit more palatable than recognizing that you only live as a poorly compensated extra with a tiny little bit part in a giant shitshow that has no potential to become anything better than what it is right now.
Sobering thought, right?
Consider this...
How would you approach your life if you were not waiting for things to get better, but were instead going on the assumption that everything will always be exactly as shitty as it is right now?
Would you stop anchoring yourself in hope and instead get up off your duff and try to actively find ways to minimize the level of crapulence all around you? Or — at least — minimize the extent to which that crapulence is raining down on your little corner of the world?
Pointing fingers and assigning blame have almost become full contact sports in this day and age.
Maybe it's not entirely at fault, but I would venture a guess that the advent of social media and our online lives has at least contributed to the growing tendency for people becoming "spectators" rather than active agents in their own lives.
What I mean by that is that rather than doing something about life and their situation, people are "letting life happen TO them." And then, of course, lots of fingerpointing and blame follows.
I don't know how we got here... but I am done buying into such ideas!
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This line is pure gold good sir!
In pyschology there's the concept of Locus of control which is essentially what you can control, then there's what you can influence, and then things you cannot control.
For exemple I can control that I'm typing to respond to this, I can influence my likelihood of being in a car accident by driving safely but someone else could still break rules and hit me despite my doing everything right, and I have absolutely no control over the weather, nor can I stop an earthquake.
Many folks end up with problems because they have a distorted concept of what they can control or can't in either direction.(Either taking responsibility and having guilt over things they don't control, or never taking accountability).
I try to be logical about it, and even if I can't fix the core thing I wish I could change, I can try to have a healthy and growth mindset around the things I can change.
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I handle both, I just let things happen in my life that I can't control and also, I find a way to deal with my problems like financial ones, I search for other ways to earn money as a full-time mom.