Building Bonds Without Oversharing

Human relationships are an essential part of our lives; having people around us plays a huge role in helping us sail through different life challenges and difficulties, because those we have around can, due to the closeness and the level of trust, stick with us through tick and thin. Due to these acts, we've come to see people who become so close that they share their problems and experiences with their close pal in order to maybe get comfort, advice, or help in one way or another.

I'm not the type who has many friends; in fact, all my friends are just a handful, although I trust them to a substantial level. Yet I'm not the type to share my feelings with people easily; it's something I just don't know how to do. Although once in a while I do this, even when I do it, I share only pieces of information with those people, not giving the full information because I just don't really trust anyone with most of my information.

So with that being said, I don't necessarily have a favorite person; everyone who's good is my friend, and I'll easily relate to everyone, but aside from that, I don't do favorites or besties kind of things, although I see people around me have such kinds of friends, and I do enjoy seeing their relationships and how it helps them get through tough times, but then I guess it's not for me.

I guess probably when I'm married I might arrive at the point where most of the shell ice built around myself will melt and I'll start sharing different information and secrets with my partner, but until then I doubt such would have. Most of my conversations with people are mostly on the surface; I don't go deep into conversation with people except if I want to help and share an advice or point of view that I feel could help the person, be it a friend or a total stranger.

Although I'm more of a loner, even when I'm in pain or suffering from one thing or another, I tend to keep to myself or just tell someone on the surface a bit of what I'm going through, just so at least someone will know. Probably, I'll say the closest person present that I'll say is nearest to being my favorite person would be my elder brother. I still speak with him about a few things and secrets, but then I won't even place him in that rank given how I see others do things like the favorite or bestie kind of thing.

I understand we all need each other and should try and open up to someone, as it'll go a long way in easing off pain and challenges. Luke even said, A problem shared is a problem half solved.Well, for me, I don't see it that way entirely, especially in our world, where a problem shared with the wrong person can become the talk of the town. I mean, your own favorite person, boss another person's favorite person. And before you know it, what you shared in secret is shared with another, and that's how your issue will become a public one.

So in order to just keep to myself and enjoy my private and simple life without any drama, I'll prefer I stick to my no-favorite lifestyle while making friends and doing all it takes to make things go well between us, without the need to share my deeper ordeal with them.

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Here is my entry for Cleanplanet weekly prompt hosted by @nowthini335 , read more about it here and November Inleo monthly prompt day 19th.

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All photos are mine.

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