When life gives you lemons
Life is funny sometimes because most people have already planned how they want to live their lives and, of course, how to survive during the hardest time of their lives, but life says no, this is what I want for you people, and that is why you keep seeing people working so hard and yet there is nothing to show for it, while some work less and they made it to the top.
My mom always says something like, “If nobody praises you, praise yourself, and if nobody motivates you, motivate yourself, because in this life you are all you’ve got.” I never understood that all through my childhood days because that was deep, and it takes experience to understand those lines.
I started planning my life and how to survive the hardest time in my life. I learned different types of handwork in case one is not going well, so I can quickly switch to another one, but still it seems like I was just running from one angle to another without leaving the same spot.
Along the line I managed to open a shop, and when things were not moving forward in the shop, I planned to take a loan, which I did, but paying back the loan became very hard because there were no sales in the shop, and the little amount I was making from home service was being used for transport and feeding.
The people in charge of the loan wouldn’t stop calling every day with all sorts of insults. Well, I don’t blame them because they didn’t force me to take it; I only took it with the hope of balancing up my business, but instead the business keeps dropping day by day.
At some point I was emotionally exhausted, and I felt like giving up because there was no hope for the business, and I didn’t know how I could pay back the debt I found myself in, so I stopped going to the shop so that anything I gathered I wouldn’t use for transportation; instead, I will be paying back the loan.
There is something about me: I get disturbed easily because I would have tried my best, and when the best is not bringing any good results, I always feel bad and worried at the same time, so giving up is what I think of next.
How do I stay motivated? Hmmm, looking back at where I was coming from to where I am is the only thing that keeps me going because if I give up, there is no one to fall back on, so it is better to keep going than to give up.
Did I say no one to lean on if I give up? Yes, so I relocated to Lagos since I was on the edge of giving up. I thought of changing environments; probably that would help, so I abandoned everything and started all over again, and all thanks to my boyfriend, whom I met when I relocated, and he is my husband now. He was struggling then as well, but he stood by me throughout the hardest time of my life.
He paid up the debt with his hard-earned money while I was busy learning another job to start a new life all over again, so he motivated me. Now I don’t have any debt, and of course I have a new shop where I make hair. Even though we are not rich, we are doing just fine.
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