Sex isn’t casual
Sex is oftentimes treated as a casual practice in modern culture. But its inherent value doesn’t suggest typicality or an action that can be shrugged off. Here are some points I made to shed light on why such an act is divine, not casual.
Objectively, we could say biology indefinitely favours the “sacredness” of sex because when having intercourse bonding hormones like oxytocin is released. This hormone makes you really attached to a person because your biological nature thinks sex = partner = kids. Many societies do actually moralise it this way and views sex as a gateway to romanticism and long term trust and partnership. the general consensus, that includes science, religion and the likes is that sex is a powerful force. My belief perpetuates that such a powerful force shouldn’t be perverted and idealised as a way to “let loose” or “have fun”. many in our current era flaunt it as a token to boost their ego, satisfy their selfishness or in your terms “explore diversity and sense of self” when really they just either want to fit in or feel good and have fun.
While it’s true people have managed to to shun emotional connection during sex, bonding hormones are still released and inevitably to a varying degree, a sense of closeness emerges not matter how much you want to consciously deny it. With growing hook up culture and its glorification, it’s much easier to separate the two. But they still stand together regardless, just mitigated.
Sex isn’t an informed “experimentation” where you learn the dynamics to know what turns you on. It isn’t a learning pattern where you have to sleep with multiple people to get it right. That’s stupid. Once it happens in the moment and all the connections and internal factors align, it becomes all the more enjoyable and you’ll get to it without an issue. If your having sex and things doesn’t feel right, there’s a disruption in emotional connection with the person your doing it with.
It is literally one of the most universally agreed truths that lust brings out the worst of us. This is Void of religious standpoint or anything else. Yes desire is natural. But by definition lust means an uncontrollable unsatisfiable urge to just feel good and sex. Lusting for your wife is ok. Becuase she’s your soulmate and partner. But if it’s premarital and a thrist for just anyone to fill, it’s the worst of addictions. And most addictions is bad. Lust controls reasoning and even basic functioning in a persons life.