Ladies of Hive Community Contest #95 - Anger

2 years ago

Hey guys!
It's a privilege to join the contest alongside all the other amazing contestants... ☺️☺️ with an unbiased mind, read patiently as I share my perspective and thought on "things that makes you angry, how long do you stay mad, and what or who can pacify you".

Well, anger is an emotional reaction to a situation and different persons respond and react differently to situations. I'm a melancholy with varying mood and my mood at a time of a situation would determine my reaction and response. If I'm excited, I'll likely take things on a very light note and might pay less attention to the sensitivity of the situation but when I'm down and quiet, not out of anger but just maintaining my cool, I'll be more sensitive and I'll react differently to the situation effacing. However, I like to remain mute and I also talk less when I'm angry.

There are lots of things that could get me angry but I'll like to mention two.
The first is talking unreasonably. I understand that if someone gets you upset, you'll want to express yourself the way you're feeling at the moment, but I'm of the opinion that if someone is angry, the tongue can be guarded. The second is; correction with unnecessary exaggerations. That's being a nag. I'm diplomatic and nagging is really a turn off for me; I can't stand person's who nag and the act irritates me.

The duration of my anger depends on the mood I was when I was angry. I like to react and respond immediately by telling the person that I dislike what they did in a diplomatic manner though... But if I know that what the person did was very annoying and if I respond it won't be diplomatic, I'll prefer to talk to the person later when I'm a bit calm. It will take a day to three at most.

When I'm angry, what pacifies me is; having the opportunity to express myself. When I'm able to talk to someone about it, probably to get an advice on how to go about resolving the situation or writing everything, just the way it feels to a book, I'll be so relieved to face the person when I'm calm to resolve the situation. Also, a diplomatic approach by the person that got me upset. If the person notices that I'm upset and can admit his or her fault and in a diplomatic manner talk about it, I'll be able to maintain a calm state to resolve the fight.

I also try to understand why the person got angry and what triggered the actions. That could give me insight on how to resolve the situation and would reduce the level of my anger.
Thanks! 🥰

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7 comments

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2 years ago

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@tibaire72

2 years ago

Hello be anger is terrible, but it is a way to be more flow

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@queenabas50

2 years ago

I agree with you. Thanks for stopping by

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2 years ago

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@centarficus47

2 years ago

I too go quiet when someone is angry; for a couple reasons. One is probably a trauma response from childhood. The other is that I always remember that anger is not a base emotion; it’s a projection of pain. So, I think to myself, what pain is triggered? Even in myself when I get angry, what pain in me was triggered? That helps me process the anger in myself and others. Thanks for this open sharing. 🙌🏻

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@ifarmgirl77

2 years ago

Staying mute might as well be one of the best ways to do when we are mad. That makes us avoid spurting out hurtful words. Calming ourselves first before talking is a lot better :)

Thank you @queenabas for sharing your anger story :) Cheers to you this weekend!

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@queenabas50

2 years ago

Staying mute might as well be one of the best ways to do when we are mad. That makes us avoid spurting out hurtful words. Calming ourselves first before talking is a lot better :)

This is actually true about responding to situations when we're angry and sometimes we say things that we can't retrieve from the party involved and regret our actions when we don't calm down before speaking. Thanks for stopping by my post. I appreciate.

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@ifarmgirl77

2 years ago

You are right :) We most likely regret words spoken in the midst of bad mood or anger :)

Thank you too, have a lovely day to you ;)

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@ladiesofhive69

2 years ago

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@queenabas50

2 years ago

Thank you very much @ladiesofhive for the amazing support. I appreciate

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@joanstewart74

2 years ago

Always best to take a breather before approaching when angry, however bottling things up make us more explosive when the next it happens, make sure to clear the problem before it becomes an issue.

!LUV