Would I Remarry at 71? - LOH #248
If it happened that I became a widow at age 71, would I really consider remarrying again? This is more like finding another lover at my old age, but then, I would say that it depends on many factors for different persons.
Some widows will consider remarrying as a way to fulfill their emotional need and escape emotional isolation; it's not bad. Some will see it as an easy way to move on with their life, have someone you talk with about life, and feel alright. Some will even think of a financial need as a factor. It's a personal thing, and there's no wrong answer or decision, of course. After all,life is a choice, and whatever one feels will make him or her happy, as long as it's not a bad thing, is totally fine.
But then, personally, I don't think I will consider remarrying at that age. My husband happened to be my first love and the only man I have known and been so intimate with. Replacing him with another man even at death, especially at such an age, will look like a hard chore for me. I can't imagine getting myself stressed out trying to be with another lover, yeah. It looks like a stress to me, lol, learning afresh what the new lover likes or dislikes and trying not to offend him so we can live peacefully. I have already passed this stage. I have read my husband like a book, and moving along these days just gets easier.
At my old age, I wouldn't bother starting a new relationship for any reason, whether good or even by request from family. I am even wondering what a new marriage can possibly offer me at the age of 71 when I have already established a family, my kids, my grandchildren, and my family and friends. What else then?
I might even lose interest in any intimacy at that age, especially with another man. I will rather choose to focus on things that will make me happy and simply live my life. Happiness is not ONLY gotten from our lover, a lot of things definitely can make us happy, and life goes on. I might just be moving from one of my grandchildren's houses to another, bonding with them and teaching them things about life based on my practical experience. Devote my time to serving others in my capacity, either through my resources or my knowledge, as the case may be, but overall, I will strive to impact lives in many ways.
These alone are enough to occupy my mind positively, and there wouldn't be room for loneliness.
Would you consider remarrying or never like me?
This post is in response to the ladies of Hive community contest #248. You can check out the prompt here
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Yes, everyone has different reasons and opinions. Some are open to getting into a new romantic relationship at such an age, others, like you and me, say nah :) Nothing is wrong with any side, of course. At the end of the day, we should do what makes us happy, hehe :)
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Of course...it's all about doing what makes us happy provided we aren't hurting anyone
At that age it would be fine to build other friendships without the expectation of marrying. I'm far from 71, but you never know. The right person could change my mind.
Thanks for sharing @nkemakonam89
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We never know anyway ..change is constant 😃
Thanks for engaging sis 🥰
I think it will be rare to see if someone make the decision to get remarry at the age of 71. The first reason is I think in that time one person doesn't have such a mentality and the second reason is the person must have a family even if after the death of partner. They would love to spend the time with family member rather than remarry.
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Exactly my thought ...as long as family is involved , many things will definitely occupy my mind instead of falling in love at that age
71 year old lover girl, I greet you o 😁😁
Your points are right and valid because of your preference but who will not like to fall in love again and again and again 😂😂
Lolz ...love is a sweet thing but old age is another phase of life that I will be thinking differently
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Just like you said, there's no reason for re-marrying at that age. All that is left is to be happy and experience joy from grandkids and their parents just like the scripture says that grandchildren are the happiness of the old
You are right ..grand kids will make living worth it
Seriously o... Thanks for sharing your amazing thoughts always
That's a very thoughtful and personal reflection @nkemakonam89! 💕 Your perspective on not remarrying at 71 is well-reasoned 🙌 Focusing on family, grandchildren, and impactful service sounds like a fulfilling path ✨ Happiness truly comes in many forms 💖
Glad you could relate with me 🤗
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True talk momma, just do what makes you happy and honestly, we do not need others to be happy but yes, we must love others.
At that age, you must have achieved so much in many areas of life. I don't see the need for trying to understand someone again. 😅
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