Before She Calls Me Mama #284

I am not a woman, let alone a mother-in-law. But I will envision myself as one for the purpose of this post, and due to personal experience, I have seen around. It is so true that the role of raising a male child is also as important as that of a female child. They go hand in hand, and one must not be above the other because they are both humans. I have seen how my sisters argued with our mom over small things that do not really matter like that. Now putting myself in that position as a woman. Someday, a man will come over to my house and will want to ask for her hand in marriage. Then at that moment, I will start looking at the man just the same way some young boys came visiting. That moment alone will make me sit down.

Over here. I have been fortunate to witness and see how some mothers-in-law do their things. Some are wonderful ones that meant well through their actions even when they were silent. And I have seen how some project a lot of sorrows and pains in the new family that is just starting, and they are expecting the son-in-law to pay for something he didn't know anything about. I have seen these things in movies, and I have equally seen them around me too. And from this, I have learned a lot of lessons quietly on what not to become.

And here is what I know about myself. I am human; I will have my own flops not because I am a bad person, but simply because of the love that I have for my daughter so dearly, and such love can never be outweighed. The day someone finally gets married to her, a part of me will definitely want to follow her; I won't pretend about that. I have seen how my mom reacted when her daughters got married, and that instinct was honest.

But as easy as this might look, which I also mean.
I will give whoever gets married to my daughter the free will to be himself in all possible ways and the freedom to be natural, and I will not expect unnecessary expectations from him. Not that I will be monitoring him and down just like some mother in-law usually do.

This is my honest response to the second topic on Ladiesonhive #284: if I were to imagine myself as a mother-in-law.

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