Aways judging instead of understanding.
Hello beautiful people, it feels good to be here again. Thank you for stopping by my blog. Back to the question of the day, which says the drastic social change that comes with success. I think people should try to understand instead of judging 🧐. Let me tell you a little story about myself and my friend. So I had this friend back then; we were best of friends.
I could go to her house, and she would come to mine; both our parents knew us as friends then. So she got admission into one of the colleges in the state, and things began to change. She no longer came to my house even while on holiday season, and if she saw me on the road, the greetings were something else, so I left her, though I complained to my sister about her behavior, and they advised I stay away from her, as she now thinks that our level is no longer the same. So I got another friend; we were close too.
As time went on, I got admission into the university, and things began to change between us, like I barely have time for myself. When on holiday periods, we usually don't see each other like that. Now this is not an intentional act, but I just needed to rest, like I need peace. Sometimes when I'm back from school, I don't go out for like one or two weeks. But I didn't know that; that behavior of mine was killing my friend in silence. She thought that I was feeling big for her because I went to the university, and to me that wasn't the case; I just needed some peace to myself. So along the line she started telling people that I'm now feeling too big for her because I went to the university, and when I heard about it, I had to call her and explain things, and she understood me.
Some years later, she got admission too, to the same university, and boom, her behavior too changes not just to friends but to family members as well. She no longer go out during holidays as well, and when they complain to her about her behavior, she apologized to them and explained that she just needed some specs and rest for herself. And she also called to apologize for judging me back then instead of understanding what I was going through. And everything is normal between us. So I think people should stop judging people who are working or too busy to attend to then; rather, they should imagine themselves in such situations. Thank you for reading through.
This is a nice piece and it potrays what's been happening in our various lives..
Someone told me the exact same thing but I didn't even take it to heart..
Thank God she has experienced it too, let's normalize not judging people, I believe there's always a reason for things people do. So just because they didn't tell you doesn't mean their actions has no reason behind it especially people we are close to..
Meeting people and asking them directly what happened, why the change of attitude says a lot and it helps prevent pointless rumors..
Thank Goodness you guys now understood what happened back then, and that it was the situation that caused it and not an intentional act..
Communication is very important in whatever you do. It helps a lot. Thanks 🙏 dear friend for reading through. And I appreciate your contribution too.
You are highly welcome 🤗
It always easier to judge people when we haven't had a taste of their experience. School life is not easy, it changes a person which might influence the way a student relates with people they used to have any form of relationship with.
I totally agree with you on this. Thank you for reading through.
One of the thing that comes with growth is that it affects many of our childhood friendships, we all have to learn to deal with it..
And I wish people could understand this. Thanks for reading through.
That's how life is, you can judge anyone until you find yourself in such person's shoe or role. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for reading through.
You're welcome
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Before we judge people we need to understand them first not rushing into judgement.
That is true... Thank you for reading through.
I understand that we get busy at times, but at the same time, we need to create a little part of our time for others that care about us.
I totally agree with you but, some people don't want to understand that, growth comes with a lot of responsibilities, as one grows things changed. They want you to still be the way you use to be when you don't have a job, which you know that it impossible. Thank you for stopping by.