Letting go of the need for validation in order to grow is a release from the need for validation.
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We spend most of our lives waiting for the approval of others. As children, we carry an invisible pressure to prove our actions, opinions, likes and dislikes to our parents, teachers at school, society as we grow up, bosses at work, and even friends. We seem to think with every step that I am doing right, will they accept it, what will society say? But is this what growing up means? Will I consider myself normal if I get someone's approval? No. Real growing up begins when we free ourselves from this cage of validation. We realize that the days of hanging our decisions, our path, and our choices on someone else's gate are over. I once realized that this habit of constantly asking for permission eats away at our inner courage. Even though we understand our own good, we don't do it unless someone else tells us to. However, knowing ourselves, learning from our mistakes, and forging our own path are the true signs of maturity.
Letting go doesn't mean that I am disrespecting anyone. Rather, it is a silent declaration that I know myself, so I don't need permission from you to know me anymore. This is a very peaceful, very personal journey. A journey of building faith in myself. Once I was afraid. What will I do wrong if I don't accept what everyone says? Then I realized that the life I am living is my responsibility, success, failure, joy and pain are all mine. So why shouldnt I walk my own path in life without the yes of others? Every day, many decisions come before us. Whether to love someone, what profession to go to, what to wear, what to say is important in everything. Because waiting for legitimacy means denying one's own good and bad.
This liberation is not very easy. Because there are still many people around us who say, why are you doing this? No one does this. But I don't stop now. I say, you don't do it, it's okay. But I will do it, because this is my path. In this way, I gradually discovered myself anew. Fear has decreased, confidence has increased. I have also made mistakes, but they were my own. What you learn from your mistakes is much more valuable than the straight path taught by others. Today I say that growing up does not mean giving up on yourself, but putting yourself in the place of your own dignity. The place where I say to myself, this is me, as I am, I am valid, I don't need your permission.
Not seeking validation from others is sign that shows someone is matured. We are all running a race and each one is on his own track and each should be fully focused on their track. Seeking validation from others is like leaving our track and focusing on other's tracks. Nonetheless when someone says something and we consider what they said and they are right we shouldn't hesitate to make corrections where necessary.