Falling Out of Love After Marriage , A Truth Most People Are Scared to Say

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Good evening everyone ,i believe our day is going smoothly,seriously this is a topic I’ve never really spoken out loud before, but I’ve thought about it, maybe too many times. Falling out of love with someone you once dreamed of building forever with… it’s scary, confusing, and honestly painful.

Let me start by saying that I’ve always believed love should grow with time, not reduce. But love alone isn’t always enough. If care, communication, or connection is missing, love can start to feel like a memory instead of a reality.

Now imagine this ooo you get married, full of hope and excitement, but a year later, you look at your partner and feel... nothing. Not hate, not anger just emptiness. That deep feeling that something is missing. That spark you had is gone.someone you see before and your happy now turn to someone you hate seeing omoo i cant imagine ooo

If that happens to me, my first reaction will be silence and confusion. I’ll start by questioning myself What changed? Is it me or is it him? Am I being too emotional or unrealistic?

I won’t just jump and start shouting or accusing. I will take time to reflect to check if it's truly that I’ve fallen out of love, or maybe I’m just overwhelmed, stressed, or disconnected. Sometimes life issues can make you feel distant from someone you love. So I’ll want to be sure.

If after reflecting deeply, I still feel the same emptiness, I’ll have to communicate it carefully but honestly. I won’t say, “I don’t love you anymore” just like that. I’ll sit him down and explain how I’ve been feeling, how I miss the connection, how I want us to work on it before it gets worse.
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I believe marriage is not something to throw away just because of a bad season. I will suggest we try to rebuild, talk more, spend time together, maybe even go for counseling if needed. I’ll ask questions like, What do you need from me? What are we not doing right anymore? Because I believe sometimes love doesn’t die; it just sleeps.

But if we try and nothing changes, and I’m still emotionally alone, then I’ll have to consider my peace and purpose. Staying in a marriage where I feel empty for too long might hurt both of us. I will quietly begin to prepare myself emotionally for whatever decision lies ahead.

At the end of the day, I want to be in a marriage where love, respect, and companionship exists not just two people living like strangers under the same roof. Falling out of love doesn’t make you a bad person. It just means something needs healing, adjusting, or letting go.

I hope I never get to that point, but if I do, I’ll choose truth, communication, and peace not shame or pretense.

Because love is not just about staying ,it’s about growing, together.

With Love❤️🩷🧡
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