You are viewing a single comment's thread:
RE: Sam’s Hangout #118 - “FEMICIDE: PREVENTION & CONSEQUENCES”
Hello everyone 🤠
How y'all doing 😌...
Happy weekend 🎊
To not beat around the bush...
I.
About if I've heard, yes I have, and I haven't just heard, I've also witnessed a case when I was still very young. There was this woman living very close to us back then, she constantly gets beaten by her husband, everyone knew about it but no one dared to interfere, the last person who dared to interfere in it was taken to the barrack and taught a lesson, so everyone kept their distance from the families matter. Long story short, she later died. Some said she committed suicide since she couldn't take it any longer, some said it was sher husband that killed her, the most saddening part was how fast the matter was swept off. My mum still talks about it until now, cos in all honesty justice was never served maybe because the husband is a top military officer... Maybe.
I've been hearing about the news of a young lady on the internet as well, but I haven't really gotten the full story, but based on the little I've come across, it was like the husband was maltreating her, it seems this particular case has gone viral online... But then why do these things keep happening, is it that there's no law or this people are above the law.
I feel the government should come up with a much more stricter law to punish offenders, they shouldn't just come up with it,but also enforce it. Also, families, communities and the society should stop treating abuse, domestic violence, maltreatment and such as a private family matter. We should allow this victims to speak up, to seek for help, and to be helped. The more we treat things like this as private family matters and try to bury it, the more it will continue and another woman's name, dream, and justice get buried.
II.
Personally, I believe the society has become more reactive than preventive. I was watching a movie recently, the wife was getting maltreated by the husband and when the mother got to know, she looked at her daughter and said, "there's no sign you're suffering." Because she couldn't find an injury on her, she saw she's feeding well and the husband is providing for her. To her, she can't leave, she even told her she can't come home for anything, she better stay in her husband's house the way she's in hers.... And I feel that's how it is in most places. No one will take a step not until a woman is injured, battered or killed. And by then, it is way too late, the deed has been doje already.
And when we talk of signs that we often overlook, we talk the likes of extreme jealousy, constant insults, threats, physical violence, isolation from either families or friends, controlling behaviors and many more are the warning signs that shows but we overlook.
Most women as well see this signs as love, it's because he loves me too much. He loves you too much and he's isolated you from your family, he loves you too much and he's beating you... Common. Seek for help, you matter as well. You're human. You don't deserve such. In as much as I don't preach divorce, it is necessary in some situations.
So, women, please seek for help, don't start praying and hoping things will change when you're not taking any step.
Also the society, the families, friends, mentors, religious leaders and all as well have a role to play. Support those who want to leave a dangerous relationship, don't start calming then down, things will get worse. Also, the home should teach the male child that love is never expressed through fear, control, violence, extreme jealousy and isolation.
Thank you for your attention to this matter 🫡
@afrikens
@nkemakonam89
@van.illa
@goldenproject
@zali.bee
@soma18
@betheloji12
@chefqueen
Take mic 🎙️🎤🎙️
🏃🏃🏃
You go write scripture finish kon dey tag me....😂😂
Scripture bawo....how did we get here 😲😮
View more
Swears 😭😂😂
View more
Let's take social media for example. Before something tragic goes viral. There are signs that have been ignored or overlooked before it happend. The public attention increases after the damage has been done.
Some content creators will even see it as an opportunity to gain more followers or engagement.
So yes the society are often reacting than protective.
Whether family or society, everyone has a role to play.
Family, friends or loved ones are expected to listen and make the home feel safe when someone complains that they feel unsafe. They are expected to show concern and support.
The society are suppose to speak up and go against any form of action that normalise abuse.
Our schools and religion institutions are not left out. They should not focus on lecturing alone they should also teach morals, respect, good conducts and healthy relationship.
The government should ensure to create effective law.
Collective effort is required to help bring femicide to an end.
Yes oo. Prayer is important, but it should go hand in hand with action. Bible even say faith with out work is dead. Also prayer without work is useless. If someone feels unsafe or is experiencing abuse, asking for help from trusted family members, trusted friends, or even the authorities would be a necessary thing to do. No one should have to suffer in silence while hoping things will change on their own.
Yes Mama. You Gerrit 💯
View more
Clock ittttt mi bro 🙂↔️.... I trained you wella. Kudos to me fess 😌😏
Honestly ehh, your story about the woman living close to your house just reminded me of Osinachi, the gospel singer who was severely maltreated by her husband before she eventually lost her life. The pain of her loss shook a lot of people to the bone marrow but I very much doubt that justice was sought for her.
It's quite painful how these things happen but in most cases, the people who could have salvaged the situation would sit still and do nothing.
I remember watching a movie as such and when the women reached out to her mother to help speak to her husband, the only words the mum offered was that no marriage is perfect 😞.
The government really should put laws in place to atleast reduce the rate these acts occur, if not eradicate it.
And males? The discipline should be instilled at the earliest stages of their lives. A good number of them tend to wear the conviction about men being superior to women like a second skin 😳😑.